GuitarGuy7 Posted July 26, 2018 Share Posted July 26, 2018 What type of relationship are you looking for? Are you looking for a long term relationship? Are you looking for a FWB or booty call where you two are not committed to one another? Are you looking to just hookup without having any sort of relationship? What type of relationships have you had? Have you ever had a FWB before? Link to post Share on other sites
Mysterio Posted July 26, 2018 Share Posted July 26, 2018 What type of relationship are you looking for? Are you looking for a long term relationship? Hey GG, this is going to be long. I need to get some thoughts out on this topic. I am looking for a LTR Romantic relationship. In that relationship. We see each other 3-4 times a week. When we see each other its a hug and big kiss on the lips. We enjoy our time together and leave each other with a hug and big kiss on the lips. Very playful towards each other. We do social and recreational activities together. Have interesting conversations and laughs. We make time for each other yet not attached at the hip. If we have disagreements. We respect each other and work it out with humour. After 2 yrs or so. We may move in together and get married. We are building a life together. Thats the ideal version. Reality has a different thing in mind for me and others. At age 47. I really don't know what the future holds. We come here week after week and try to make sense of out singleness. Some of us think its bad luck. Others think its something that they are doing wrong. I say that our life is ever dynamic, Its always shifting. We can't always control everything. My buddy SA met his GF in 1988. They got married in 1997 and had three boys. Now they are separated -2017, and going to divorce- 2018, from my understanding. He is now with a new woman. Thats how life worked out for him. My last GF was in 2012. We broke up over my not being gung ho about wanting kids. She is now pregnant. I am still friends with her. She was dating a guy when I last saw her in March 2018. I don't think he is the father. I think its sperm doner that is why she is pregnant. She is going to be a single mother. Or if the guy she is with is the father. She has not shown him. Bottom line is that we on Love Shack are in Think Tank mode and thats a blessing and a curse. We should not have any problems when we meet the love of our lives and it would be more or less ideal. On the other hand. The frustrations with the journey of it all is what we have to deal with. I say a lot of us, really need to take a step back and say. Until a great woman/man manifest in our sight. We have to carry on and not let it get us down. Truthfully I think the reason we all want something special is that in the world of dating and trying to figure it out. Its not fun. Its frustrating and lonely. Its not like we are all out there and all our dates are great, with people who treat well and we are having a great time. We all here on LL. We all want something deeper. We can't put our lives on hold. Most of us will just stumble into love, more than just having it all mapped out and according to our plans. My Parents met in spring of 1968 and married in winter of 1969. They had me in 1971 and my brother in 1973. They have had ups and down and are still together. For them they learned about each other as they were married. A lot of us here are not like that. We want to know who we are really with. Some can do it. A lot of us can't. Link to post Share on other sites
Spreeley713 Posted July 26, 2018 Share Posted July 26, 2018 I'm looking for a long term relationship. However, since my last LTR ended last year, I haven't been able to keep a guy interested enough to last longer than a month. Link to post Share on other sites
ElKay Posted July 26, 2018 Share Posted July 26, 2018 I would like to find a long-term relationship, but because I'm feeling very lonely, a short term relationship could work in the meantime. Never tried FWB, but am curious about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted July 28, 2018 Share Posted July 28, 2018 enigma, I would say the same thing for guys. If you're a guy who has trouble getting women interested, you need more hobbies and something interesting in your life that you are doing. People are drawn to others who have a real agenda outside of dating ... and it helps your confidence ... deep engagement in some good activity helps you feel passionate ... and interested in life ... that passion is very attraction ... People of course are looking for beauty but right up there people are looking to partner with someone who seems to have figured out a way to live life fully. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 29, 2018 Share Posted July 29, 2018 I love passionate, driven people. Now, passionate people who want something and won't go after it, that's a different matter.... Link to post Share on other sites
OatsAndHall Posted July 29, 2018 Share Posted July 29, 2018 I want a long term, serious relationship with someone who is the same place in their life as me. I have an established career, a stable life and I have learned to enjoy being single. So, I want to meet someone, gradually make each other a part of the other's life until we hit the point where it becomes a life together. But, I can't emphasize the term "gradually" enough; I want the relationship to be committed and monogamous but move slowly. My past LTRs have failed in part because we moved too quickly. I DON'T want to start dating someone and become completely intertwined in each other within the first six months. Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted July 29, 2018 Share Posted July 29, 2018 What type of relationship are you looking for? Long term, polyamorous, or long term FWB, in addition to my long term (and wonderful) marriage. I'm even looking for good friends - i.e., platonic relationships. Are you looking for a long term relationship? Preferably, yes. But before that happens, it's likely to be short term, isn't it? Are you looking for a FWB or booty call where you two are not committed to one another? FWB can be long term, but even it not, that works for me. Booty calls do not. Are you looking to just hookup without having any sort of relationship? No, but that's sometimes how it works out, because of incompatibility. What type of relationships have you had? Have you ever had a FWB before? Marriage, monogamous, polyamorous, FWB, open, swinger, long term, short term, and friends. Link to post Share on other sites
CrazyKatLady Posted August 8, 2018 Share Posted August 8, 2018 I would never agree to casual or FWB, yet have been in those roles without realizing it before and it sucked! Made a fool of myself because I assumed sex meant something profound and to take place among wanting to get married people only. I assumed a man would think to honor the woman giving him her most prized posession-but not everyone thinks like me--now I know. No ones fault in my case, just lack of understanding on my part. I stay abstinent now and I am upfront about why, so no more heartache, even if I do get only offers for sex now. It only hurts for a second to not be worth dating, but then I am happy inside for being true to me-I had to learn a LOT of painful lessons by being untrue to myself concerning sex and dating. I believe deeply in the value of sex and pleasing your partner-but I have yet to meet anyone who is smart enough to stick around for the best of me and all I have to offer them, so...I just keep holding out and I have truly found my happy place in life, no matter what anyone else may feel about my worth! Link to post Share on other sites
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