dateme Posted July 26, 2018 Share Posted July 26, 2018 Any women having issues dating because of the #metoo movement? Are men still approaching you? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 26, 2018 Share Posted July 26, 2018 I'm way past dating....but watching my daughter and her friends - there's still plenty of interested men about. And apparently if you practice your pole dance moves on the dancing pole at the hotel, there will be MANY interested men. hahaha Link to post Share on other sites
Author dateme Posted July 26, 2018 Author Share Posted July 26, 2018 I'm way past dating....but watching my daughter and her friends - there's still plenty of interested men about. And apparently if you practice your pole dance moves on the dancing pole at the hotel, there will be MANY interested men. hahaha Lol. So is this true? Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett.O'hara Posted July 26, 2018 Share Posted July 26, 2018 Not at all. The only difference I have seen is positive. When a woman is uncomfortable or says she isn't interested, guys are starting to pay more attention to that and respecting their boundaries and backing off when necessary. It is about being more aware of how the other person is responding or not responding. It can help save a lot of time and confusion. Things may be progressing too quickly for one partner. The key is to be aware of how they are feeling and what they are comfortable with. From my perspective, that a good thing. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 26, 2018 Share Posted July 26, 2018 Lol. So is this true? Which bit? haha Link to post Share on other sites
Author dateme Posted July 26, 2018 Author Share Posted July 26, 2018 Not at all. The only difference I have seen is positive. When a woman is uncomfortable or says she isn't interested, guys are starting to pay more attention to that and respecting their boundaries and backing off when necessary. It is about being more aware of how the other person is responding or not responding. It can help save a lot of time and confusion. Things may be progressing too quickly for one partner. The key is to be aware of how they are feeling and what they are comfortable with. From my perspective, that a good thing. Shouldn't it be from both men and women's perspective? Not just one gender? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 26, 2018 Share Posted July 26, 2018 Shouldn't it be from both men and women's perspective? Not just one gender? Your question is about wanting to know a woman's perspective. I agree that the changes are for the better. I always had a really strong dislike for men who thought that "no" meant that I wanted to be chased. I've never played games with men: If I'm interested, he will know. If I'm not interested, I expect him to listen to my "no". Hopefully #metoo will have men finally taking a 'no' at face value. Link to post Share on other sites
GoreSP Posted July 26, 2018 Share Posted July 26, 2018 If snything, it makes it easier to weed out the jerks. If they’re moaning about the movement affwcting their lives in any way, I would toss them aside quickly. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GoreSP Posted July 26, 2018 Share Posted July 26, 2018 Shouldn't it be from both men and women's perspective? Not just one gender? Well you asked for women’s input so...... Link to post Share on other sites
anduina Posted July 26, 2018 Share Posted July 26, 2018 At the height of the #MeToo movement last year, I was single and dating a lot from guys met on dating apps and guys met in academia. Met my fiance this way and it was all over for me. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 26, 2018 Share Posted July 26, 2018 Gore is spot on. If a guy's approach puts him at risk of getting caught up in the #metoo movement, then he's doing something wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dateme Posted July 26, 2018 Author Share Posted July 26, 2018 Gore is spot on. If a guy's approach puts him at risk of getting caught up in the #metoo movement, then he's doing something wrong. So what is the correct way to approach women? Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted July 27, 2018 Share Posted July 27, 2018 I don't know if that factor makes it harder to date, but if a man screws something up or does something really offensive, he'll get blasted for it on social media. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 27, 2018 Share Posted July 27, 2018 So what is the correct way to approach women? With respect. Avoid being sleazy and do take no for an answer. Don't assume that she wants to talk with you. And remember that us being in a public public space and are perhaps willing to have a conversation does not necessarily mean that we want to date you. It's not rocket science. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author dateme Posted July 27, 2018 Author Share Posted July 27, 2018 With respect. Avoid being sleazy and do take no for an answer. Don't assume that she wants to talk with you. And remember that us being in a public public space and are perhaps willing to have a conversation does not necessarily mean that we want to date you. It's not rocket science. Interesting. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 27, 2018 Share Posted July 27, 2018 Interesting. How would you describe an appropriate approach? Link to post Share on other sites
Author dateme Posted July 27, 2018 Author Share Posted July 27, 2018 How would you describe an appropriate approach? I started the thread to ask folks like you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author dateme Posted July 27, 2018 Author Share Posted July 27, 2018 As a man I feel that women seem to want the men they aren't interested in to leave them the heck alone. And the guys they do want to approach them they probably wouldn't use the #metoo. But the issue seems that there are a enough women who don't communicate it the way they intend to use it and it keeps even the good men from speaking out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Veronica73 Posted July 27, 2018 Share Posted July 27, 2018 As to the original posted question, no. The #metoo movement hasn’t made dating more difficult. If anything, it has made it better. And life in general better. I feel safer saying no without going out of my way to sugar coat it and make them feel better and soothe their bruised egos and whatnot. Just to get away and avoid retaliation. I feel more able and willing to just say no. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted July 27, 2018 Share Posted July 27, 2018 when the guy is handsome and/or rich, most any style of attention is just fine only the less advantaged guys are metood 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 27, 2018 Share Posted July 27, 2018 As a man I feel that women seem to want the men they aren't interested in to leave them the heck alone. Exactly. And most women have always felt this way - even before #metoo And the guys they do want to approach them they probably wouldn't use the #metoo. The women who've responded to your post are not reporting a problem where men no longer approaching. Why ask the question if you don't believe the answer? But the issue seems that there are a enough women who don't communicate it the way they intend to use it and it keeps even the good men from speaking out. I have no idea what you're trying to say here. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dateme Posted July 28, 2018 Author Share Posted July 28, 2018 Exactly. And most women have always felt this way - even before #metoo The women who've responded to your post are not reporting a problem where men no longer approaching. Why ask the question if you don't believe the answer? I have no idea what you're trying to say here. Ok. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dateme Posted July 28, 2018 Author Share Posted July 28, 2018 At the height of the #MeToo movement last year, I was single and dating a lot from guys met on dating apps and guys met in academia. Met my fiance this way and it was all over for me. Cool. Maybe the movement is working for the best. Link to post Share on other sites
greymatter Posted July 28, 2018 Share Posted July 28, 2018 when the guy is handsome and/or rich, most any style of attention is just fine only the less advantaged guys are metood Are you somehow not aware that the metoo movement has come to the forefront of public knowledge because of male celebrities assaulting/raping/committing sexual violence/harassment, etc. against women, and women finally speaking out about it??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author dateme Posted July 28, 2018 Author Share Posted July 28, 2018 Are you somehow not aware that the metoo movement has come to the forefront of public knowledge because of male celebrities assaulting/raping/committing sexual violence/harassment, etc. against women, and women finally speaking out about it??? But see the issue is that it's being used for much more than just that. So it is confusing. People are getting in trouble just fr accusations. And if they share an oposing viewpoint they get ambushed. That takes away from what the movement may have been originally intended for. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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