Puzzled about my Crush

[limbiniloodini]

Hi,

 

So I've had this crush on a girl for about 7 months now and honestly, it's all over the place. I've been in High School for about 3 years now and when I decided I liked her, I started messaging her on Instagram with normal texts. We've been friends for about 2 years as well. It wasn't until March that I finally got the strength to tell her I liked her. Obviously I did it through Instagram and unfortunately... she semi-rejected me? What I mean is she told me she was bi-sexual and that she was confused about it. She also told me I was awesome but just didn't have a sense of things at the moment. We let it slide and we just returned to being friends like nothing ever happened. Well... it wasn't until the start of this month I wondered again if she liked me in that way. Before when I texted her, it'd usually be about a 5-8 word reply back but now it's full on sentences. About a week ago, I was talking about work because she's getting a job where I work and it went on for about an hour. We made jokes and whenever I ended that current topic, she'd start another one which... she never did before. She laughs at all my jokes at school and I've also noticed that she's patted my back once or twice this week and even patted my hand to give me a marker during one of my classes. The final cherry on top is that on Snapchat, she updated her story so that if you replied, she would rate you alongside a TBH. I of course did and she replied with: "TBH, you're really funny and just great to talk to. 8/10".

 

 

I'm honestly not sure what to do. I want to ask her again but A. I'm scared because of what she said the last time I asked her out and B. Anxiety sucks.

 

Thanks

[d0nnivain]

Ask her to do something with you. Don't call it a date. Date is kind of a scary pressure filled word / activity in high school. But spend some one on one time with her doing something -- taking a walk, hanging out, getting ice cream, playing mini golf, watching a movie. What you do isn't so important but spending time together in real life not on a phone or computer is what is important. Then you can revisit how you both feel but don't over talk things & don't announce anything especially that you like her.

[Lotsgoingon]

She likes year ... not clear whether as friend or more than friend ... or right now she could be unsure--so something in between.

 

There is no way to think through the answer. You have to do as d0nnivain says, you have spend time with her in person and figure out the vibe and talk and see ... Ultimately you figure out how much you really like people in person ... and that's what you need to do.

 

As simple as that.

[preraph]

Honestly, she shot you down and if she was actually interested, she's had plenty of time to contact you and say, "Hey, let's go do something." She gave you the soft rejection, but if she was in the least interested in you as a boyfriend, attracted to you that way, she would never have closed that door. She's being nice now because she thinks you've moved on and it's safe to be nice, but it's not....Once she rejected you, the ball was in her court. I just don't know any woman who would reject a guy they actually were attracted to unless they were taken, and even then, it would be like, maybe sometime when I'm not dating someone.