figgurinoutlife Posted September 3, 2005 Share Posted September 3, 2005 Women! Okay my ex and I were becoming close during the last month and she would call me alot especially during the last couple weeks (she initiated all the calls). I played it cool, and did not talk about our relationship, unless she brought it up, I just acted like her best friend. I guess her and her boyfriend fight alot and she runs to me, sometimes. She calls when her and her boyfriend fight and she is all depressed and crying, and after when she sees me in person she acts happy to be around me and flirts and laughs. One time when she came over after a fight w/her boyfriend she was flirty and we kissed, and later on she brought it up on the phone and asked me what I thought about it, and I said it was nice, she said she liked it too. She then wanted to talk to me online a few days later and she asked me if I missed her and I said at times, and she said when do I miss her, I said when a song comes on the radio that reminds me of her, or a place we went together or a movie we saw together (I wasn't deep about it). I then asked her the same question and she said yes. She asked if she could hang out w/me on monday eve. to finish the conversation and hang out and I said okay. Well I didn't hear from her till about 930 that night and she said she was sleeping all afternoon and just woke up, so she stood me up. I acted like it was no big deal and blew it off. She has been very distant since then, and I dont know why. She then called me last night crying saying I need to come get her from her boyfriends, then her boyfriend grabbed the phone away from her and she said "stop" really loud as if he was trying to kill her then it hung up. So it freaked me out and I tried to call back 10 min later, but no answer. I would have went over there but I didnt know where they lived. I called again in the morning - no answer, in the afternoon - no answer, in the evening - no answer. So I am still freaked cause I cant get ahold of her so I have a friend of a friend go over there to check on her and come to find out she is fine and her and her boyfriend denied any fighting last night. It pisses me off cause she didnt call me back to let me know she was okay, seeing that I called multiple times, and she will always call you back if you call. I honestly just wanted to know if she was okay. So she is still not calling and I don't know why! She mentioned once that it is hard to talk to me when her boyfriend is around that is why she wanted to talk to me online, but she could still sneak off and call me to let me know she is okay. Why is she so hot and cold around me, I think she is interested at times cause she inititates everything, relationship talk, kissing, asking if I miss her, calling alot. Now she is distant. Link to post Share on other sites
vix Posted September 3, 2005 Share Posted September 3, 2005 Whilst i don't know why she's acting like she is, i can only assume that she doesn't know what to think/do. She is obviously having problems in her relationship & is maybe realising that she's made a mistake. I don't know your background - How long were you together? Who ended the relationship? Why? How long have you been apart? Link to post Share on other sites
Author figgurinoutlife Posted September 3, 2005 Author Share Posted September 3, 2005 we broke up last July 2004, then remained friends w/benefits until last March. So I would say we were together about a year. We ended it because she was the more partier type and because I was having issues that are now fixed. It was sort of a mutual breakup. Link to post Share on other sites
sanne Posted September 4, 2005 Share Posted September 4, 2005 stop being her shoulder to cry on. this girl is clearly not stable, and it is not your responsibility to take care of her. you two are BROKEN UP, if she wanted to be with you she would. cmon man have some pride, being her shoulder to cry on is not the most manly thing to be doing. Link to post Share on other sites
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