BC1980 Posted July 29, 2018 Share Posted July 29, 2018 Here is my situation. Last year, I moved in with my parents to finish my last year of nurse practitioner school because I couldn't work full-time hours. I just finished school in May and passed my boards in June. I'm back to working full-time as an RN, so I could afford to live by myself again. I'm currently searching for a nurse practitioner job but may have to commute or move. Would my situation make you not want to date me? At this point, I'm not going to sign a lease anywhere because I don't know where I'll be working. I'm really curious what everyone thinks about this. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted July 29, 2018 Share Posted July 29, 2018 I'm really curious what everyone thinks about this. I might date you but would be hesitant about getting serious, concerned you might become GU - geographically undesirable! I know those programs tend to foster "in the trenches" friendships, why not hang with them until your situation resolves itself? Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Author BC1980 Posted July 30, 2018 Author Share Posted July 30, 2018 I might date you but would be hesitant about getting serious, concerned you might become GU - geographically undesirable! I know those programs tend to foster "in the trenches" friendships, why not hang with them until your situation resolves itself? Mr. Lucky I would like to stay where I am, but I might have to move somewhere else in the state to get some experience. The market is a bit flooded where I live right now. You're fine if you have experience, but, if you don't, it's more competitive. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted July 30, 2018 Share Posted July 30, 2018 Living with parents isn't much of a problem as long as you've got (and are actively pursuing) a plan to become independent. However I would be hesitant to date someone who is likely to be moving far away. I don't want a LDR. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BC1980 Posted July 30, 2018 Author Share Posted July 30, 2018 Most guys don't care where a girl lives. I doubt it will interfere with your dating in the slightest. This is what one of my guy friends told me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author BC1980 Posted July 30, 2018 Author Share Posted July 30, 2018 Living with parents isn't much of a problem as long as you've got (and are actively pursuing) a plan to become independent. However I would be hesitant to date someone who is likely to be moving far away. I don't want a LDR. I think the same would go for me if I were thinking about dating a guy. It's not like I'm leeching off them, have no career, and never grew up. It was just a temporary thing while I was finishing school. Link to post Share on other sites
ElKay Posted July 30, 2018 Share Posted July 30, 2018 I'm 27 and the only problem it causes is that it makes me feel bad to stay out late since my grandma is paranoid all the time. The thing is that I tell any dates, when I mention living with my family, that I'm saving up for a deposit on my soon-to-be mortgage. So I have a concrete plan to move out and move on in my life so they know I'm dedicated and organized. I wouldn't see it as a problem as long as you can go out and don't sound like you're not interested in life or something. It's all about the attitude and your goals! Link to post Share on other sites
Author BC1980 Posted July 30, 2018 Author Share Posted July 30, 2018 I'm 27 and the only problem it causes is that it makes me feel bad to stay out late since my grandma is paranoid all the time. The thing is that I tell any dates, when I mention living with my family, that I'm saving up for a deposit on my soon-to-be mortgage. So I have a concrete plan to move out and move on in my life so they know I'm dedicated and organized. I wouldn't see it as a problem as long as you can go out and don't sound like you're not interested in life or something. It's all about the attitude and your goals! To me, it would be smart to save up for a mortgage. Houses are so dang expensive. I looked at some houses a year ago, and I realized I needed more money. I was shocked when the bank calculated what my mortgage would be, and I had a substantial down payment. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BC1980 Posted July 30, 2018 Author Share Posted July 30, 2018 I was listening to a podcast, and someone was making the point that it's harder now because people get married later. So you often don't have two salaries for a mortgage or apartment payment. A decent one bedroom where I live is about 1000.00. Might as well put your money into a house, so you can sell it one day and get some money back. Link to post Share on other sites
Chris2016 Posted July 31, 2018 Share Posted July 31, 2018 OP, the only thing guys care about is your a girl. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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