tinametcalf Posted July 30, 2018 Share Posted July 30, 2018 I'll try and keep it short, my ex [M27] and I [F24] split up two months ago after almost two years together. He ended it with me. During in those two months my ex once asked to meet up, then decided he didn't want too. He also asked me several times if i am seeing anyone else, sleeping with anyone else etc.. We bumped into each other over the weekend and he was jealous as I was with other guys. We ended up sleeping together that night.. and morning ha. His mum saw us together and got excited and has told his brother and sister. They are now asking him what is happening, whats going on etc... He told me that they've been asking and he says he doesn't know what to say, and that we should both see how we feel and make sure we are honest with each other, i asked if this means he wants to see each other a bit more, he said ' i don't know really, what do you want to do' I replied, i'm worried you are just bored and lonely, he replied 'well i don't know, i'm just going to take this week and see how i'm feeling. Ive felt a bit all over the place recently' I asked if he would chat on the phone he replied i'd rather face to face, i said same but we cant right now.. then a whole hour later he said ok, i just don't want to get into it all, i'm not ready to do that yet' On the phone i said the only thing i need to know if you want space he replied ' no not necessarily, i don't want to think about it, i don't think either us should think, we should just do what feels right' Do you think he is genuinely confused about his feelings, or is he just after a FWB situation? And if we are taking it down the reconciliation route, how do we do that? Do we not text everyday and take it slow, whats the steps so to speak? Link to post Share on other sites
Becky_19 Posted July 30, 2018 Share Posted July 30, 2018 It sounds to me like he wants a reconciliation with you. I don’t think it’s wise to go head first into a relationship immediately. Him saying let’s just see how it feels is probably the best advice in my opinion. Treat the situation like it’s the first time you’re dating him, neither of you want to come on too strong, clearly with a long history with each other it will be hard to hold back on those urgent feelings. But I think given you’re in the moment of your second chance you’re going to want to take it one step at a time and respond mutually. It’s going to be a delicate balance, you don’t want to play too hard to get because his feelings might get hurt if he’s putting himself out there, but you also don’t want to come on too strong for your own protection as well. I’m not a big fan of those ex back coach/self proclaimed experts on the internet but I’ve been reading my fair share recently and one of my take homes has been that you’re more likely to rebuilt a strong connection if you treat it as a new relationship and flirt/interact in that way. I look forward to hearing about your story! Link to post Share on other sites
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