Art_Critic Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 Don't worry about why she is doing this to you.. the fact is that she is doing this to you and you need the courts on your side at this point Do what Miss Clavel posted to do... she has it right... Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 That is a really good question for the lawyer... if she ever changes her mind, can she decide to come after you for past child support? Because if she can do this, the last thing that you want is to get a bill for thousands, and thousands of dollars... Talk to a lawyer. Protect yourself (and your son). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
noelle303 Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 That is a really good question for the lawyer... if she ever changes her mind, can she decide to come after you for past child support? Because if she can do this, the last thing that you want is to get a bill for thousands, and thousands of dollars... Talk to a lawyer. Protect yourself (and your son). Oh yes she can absolutely go for back child support. Bdad, who do you want more in your life - her or your child? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 Because I’m so in love with her. She’d been texting this guy back and forth and I just freaked out. I know for a fact she’s been with him since our son has been born. Why wouldn't she be? I don't know why she's still having sex with you, but sounds like she lost respect for you and has emotionally moved on. Just because you want her doesn't mean she has to be with you. But you can get joint custody of your son as long as you don't have drug or alcohol problems, have a suitable bedroom for him, and are reliable and employed. You need to be using birth control. A baby is a big thing to have by mistake. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bdad Posted August 2, 2018 Author Share Posted August 2, 2018 She called me late last night and said he hadn’t slept in two days and she needed help. I went over there and sat up with him while she got some rest. We took him to the doctor and we’re hoping he just has a virus. I’m with them now, she’s sleeping and I’m trying to get him to sleep too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bdad Posted August 2, 2018 Author Share Posted August 2, 2018 Why wouldn't she be? Because she just had a baby with someone else Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 2, 2018 Share Posted August 2, 2018 I just want to understand why she’s doing this to me... Because she just had a baby with someone else I hate to tell you this but you need that paternity test. The darling baby you are investing so much of your heart in, probably isn't yours. You need to get this straightened out before he is aware of what's going on, gets attached to you & then you disappear. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bdad Posted August 2, 2018 Author Share Posted August 2, 2018 I hate to tell you this but you need that paternity test. The darling baby you are investing so much of your heart in, probably isn't yours. You need to get this straightened out before he is aware of what's going on, gets attached to you & then you disappear. I did. This is my child, one hundred percent. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 2, 2018 Share Posted August 2, 2018 You received a lot of advice telling you to get a lawyer. Have you made an appointment yet? Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted August 3, 2018 Share Posted August 3, 2018 I did. This is my child, one hundred percent. Then you should decide if you want to be a dad or boyfriend. Doesn't look like both are simultaneously possible with this particular partner... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
MidnightBlue1980 Posted August 5, 2018 Share Posted August 5, 2018 As of right now, no money has been accepted. I just want to understand why she’s doing this to me... Awe. First, it is so nice to see how much you love your baby. :love: Second, you need to get that right in writing. Doctor it up. Why is she doing this to you? She could be immature, not love you, love you but be a mess, who knows. What is important is you securing your rights - now. That is your baby! Third, stop having sex with her unless you are in a committed relationship and she shows maturity and serious changes. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 5, 2018 Share Posted August 5, 2018 As of right now, no money has been accepted. I just want to understand why she’s doing this to me... Because she is not in love with you. You have to accept this and move on to just having time and custody of your baby. You aren't going to have her too. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Clavel Posted August 6, 2018 Share Posted August 6, 2018 (edited) Oh yes she can absolutely go for back child support. Bdad, who do you want more in your life - her or your child? ita, he should start a savings account in both their names and start adding an amount equal to what a court will order for child support. take the bank statement and the DNA results to a lawyer. Edited August 6, 2018 by Miss Clavel Link to post Share on other sites
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