Successful relationships that came from emotional cheating

[Neruda20]

Does anyone know of a successful relationship that was begotten from emotional cheating?

 

My best friend and I are at odds about it. I am in the camp that says a relationship that comes from any form of cheating is doomed from the start.

[Kelliousme]

I can agree with both of you. Relationships that came from emotional cheating might not be as sustainable because I do believe the saying "once a cheater always a cheater" lol. But there are relationships that are successful. I believe some people cheat emotionally because they're deprived of what they want in their relationship which causes them to develop feelings for another person. In some cases there might be a lot of problems in a relationship leaving one person unhappy. So the answer would simply be.. find happiness elsewhere. So in this case I would agree with your friend that relationships that came from emotional cheating CAN work out. It all depends on the person and context.

[smackie9]

I agree with your friend. I know plenty of people who ended up happily married from infidelity.

 

 

But the odds are slim for anything working out if the person or persons involved are serial cheaters. It all has to do with personality type/moral values.

 

 

Some people just meet their MR or MS right unexpectedly, and end up leaving their SO to be with their soul mate.

[ExpatInItaly]

Most of us would like to believe these relationships are doomed, but that is simply not always the case. Two anecdotes to back that up:

 

My aunt's ex-husband had an affair, many years ago now. He left for his other woman, and they've now been married much longer than he was married to my aunt. They have their own family and seem quite happy. (I know his current wife through a friend in my hometown)

 

One of my own long-term ex's had an affair as well. We split and they started a relationship soon after. They too are now married with a child. By all accounts, they are happy as well. No sour grapes here either, I have moved on to a much better match for me too.

 

So no, not all relationships that begin in infidelity crash and burn.