Bubbles29 Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 I have been with my partner nearly a year, March time he went out clubbing with his friend while I was poorly at his house waiting for him to come home. It was ladies night down town and my friend went and rang me telling me he was there. Later on she sent me a picture of him with his hand on another girls arm leading in to talk to her in a nightclub. I rang him and text him to come home I was really upset and she was like he was all over her. He came home very drunk demanding I leave his house and rang the police on me saying I was harassing him for something he hasn't done. The police arrived at my family home around 2am, and gave me a warning to stay away because he was trouble calling me mental ill. A couple of day later he explained to me he was just talking and he knew the girl from a friends brother ex. Since then we have been back together, telling me it was my fault for not trusting him but he was wrong to call them, explaining he never called me mental to the police. But my fault for trusting my friend and being insecure and paranoid, and she was just a friend. This is also a guy who doesn't allow me on his Facebook as a friend as i'm insecure who likes his pictures or who he adds, even though when he got Instagram he added lots of random women! Help! Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 Help? There is only one person who can help you, and that is YOU. You have all the information you need to make a decision. He clearly has issues with alcohol, honesty, manipulation and faithfulness. With these facts, if it were me, I'd follow the police's advice and not go near him again. He sounds like a right jerk. I wonder why on earth you got back together with someone who has shown you their colours like this?? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Guildford Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 Dump him. For my money calling the police when you did not even threaten violence is a red line, that is the Rubicon, there is no going back. Dump him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 the minute the police get involved it's OVER with no possibility of reconciliation. You need some more self esteem. What were you thinking waiting at his house while he was out clubbing? If he was out, you should have been out with your GFs, not cooling your heels waiting on him. Next. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 He's liar and you're an obsessive girlfriend and because of you 2 important police resources were wasted at your place instead of on a REAL emergency!! If I were you I'd be embarrassed to have him for boyfriend. You 2 split and do some maturing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bubbles29 Posted August 9, 2018 Author Share Posted August 9, 2018 He said i was going to smash his house up with his brother and nephew inside (however his brother had returned from a night out himself and he knew this so his nephew wasn't there) I don't know why he thought i would do that? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 He didn't think that you were actually a danger to his family members. He lied to the police because he was mad at you & wanted to get you in trouble. Filing a false police report is a crime. You should not be dating him. He's bad news. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted August 10, 2018 Share Posted August 10, 2018 I don't know why he thought i would do that? You know exactly why, you just don't want to admit it. Because he is a drunk, a liar and a manipulator. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted August 10, 2018 Share Posted August 10, 2018 Bubbles29, please wake up and smell what you're shovelling. This guy is a total waste of space. Please stop this drama and get rid of this loser - don't you think you deserve better than this? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bubbles29 Posted August 23, 2018 Author Share Posted August 23, 2018 i feel like it is all my fault, the reasons why he gets mad. He says I'm needy and insecure, i dunno maybe its all my fault. Link to post Share on other sites
Orokotikki Posted August 23, 2018 Share Posted August 23, 2018 i feel like it is all my fault, the reasons why he gets mad. He says I'm needy and insecure, i dunno maybe its all my fault. The only thing that is your fault, is your fault for not leaving him already! What a creep! Find yourself a respectful partner in the future, he will not change for the better (only the worse)! Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 23, 2018 Share Posted August 23, 2018 i feel like it is all my fault, the reasons why he gets mad. He says I'm needy and insecure, i dunno maybe its all my fault. You may be needy and insecure, but he's a lying mean manipulative jerk. You had the goods on him. Who cares if it was someone's sister? He was all over her. He made crap up so the police would think YOU were the crazy one. He gaslights you. Look it up. He even gaslighted the police. I hope you showed them the photo and text from your friend at least. He's a jerk. Boot him out of your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bubbles29 Posted August 23, 2018 Author Share Posted August 23, 2018 we had a long discussion about things, he said he was just talking to her and that what friends to regardless of gender. I forgave him as he could have just been talking to her and the picture just looked worse than it is. Like when he explains it i totally understand and see that they were just friends and he knew her, he was leaning it due to the music being really loud. Yet, when I'm home alone, I can't forgive him and it was months ago? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bubbles29 Posted August 23, 2018 Author Share Posted August 23, 2018 we also had a fight recently when he was asking about my previous partners getting really jealous, stating i lied to him what I had done. he broke up with me before we was meant to go away for 2 weeks saying things like ''your a psycho' 'Sick bitch' 'whore' 'given me depression' stupid pathetic relationship'. since we have made up but i can't go on holiday so his friend bought my ticket but now i feel like i should have gone away for 2 weeks???? Link to post Share on other sites
babysacay Posted August 25, 2018 Share Posted August 25, 2018 we also had a fight recently when he was asking about my previous partners getting really jealous, stating i lied to him what I had done. he broke up with me before we was meant to go away for 2 weeks saying things like ''your a psycho' 'Sick bitch' 'whore' 'given me depression' stupid pathetic relationship'. since we have made up but i can't go on holiday so his friend bought my ticket but now i feel like i should have gone away for 2 weeks???? I'm gonna repeat what the other posters have basically said...this guy is no bueno. What you just described is emotional abuse. This is not healthy. You cannot change him. But you can change the way you react. You essentially have two options: Stay in this abusive, gaslighting relationship and continue to feel bad or leave to work on building yourself up so that you may find someone better. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted August 27, 2018 Share Posted August 27, 2018 I read your other thread which is a duplicate of this one. The advise remains the same. You have a clown on your hands. Walk away and seek better for yourself. Find your self-respect and work on your self-esteem. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted August 27, 2018 Share Posted August 27, 2018 Bubbles, he is not your "partner". He's just some guy that you've attached yourself to. Cut him lose. He's with you for the "convenience". Link to post Share on other sites
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