Zahara Posted September 10, 2018 Share Posted September 10, 2018 It's even worse that I messaged him yesterday saying I'll always love him and hes special to me and he just ignored it. He treated me bad and I say this stuff to him He used to call me ugly and a loser etc but at one point he was saying I was his dream girl and that I was beautiful. He's been playing mind games with me all along. I do feel stupid for letting someone walk all over me like that that's why I can't get over it and I'm depressed. And I don't see how wanting answers is putting me in a bad light when he was the one who said he loved me and suddenly he says hes over me. It's hurting me how he lets her be a bitch to me when I haven;'t really done anything wrong and I know she makes me look like the bad one by telling him things and I bet she doesn't show him the stuff she says to me. You can't get over it because you have allowed someone's bad behavior to determine how you feel about yourself. He's not making you feel bad -- you feel bad about yourself and don't see your own value and that is why his words are so heavy on you. A man calls you ugly and a loser and you reward him by telling him he'll always be special? You love him? You love the image that you met in the beginning. The guy that is berating you now is the douchebag he truly is. You love a man that puts you down? You're showering him with compliments because you're hoping he'll tell you what you want to hear. Stop doing that -- a man that insults you doesn't care about you. Forget what the ex is doing. What are you doing? You acknowledge that he has treated you badly -- so why are you seeking him out? He has nothing to give you. It's putting you in a bad light because you're now going to come off as the crazy ex that can't let go. Work through your pain and discomfort on your own. These people are the last people to help you. If anything, they will cause you more pain. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted September 10, 2018 Share Posted September 10, 2018 Can I just say also at the beginning he would show me screenshots of him telling her they need to be distant but I realise he made excuses to keep her around. If he loves her so much why doesn't he get back with her None of your business. Your priority now is blocking these people and moving on. What he does and does not do, is not your concern. Who he wants to date and doesn't want to date, is not your concern. Their drama is not yours to figure out. You work on your self-esteem and start the process of healing. And that means blocking all of them. Stop looking to them to make you feel better. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author bear123 Posted September 10, 2018 Author Share Posted September 10, 2018 You can't get over it because you have allowed someone's bad behavior to determine how you feel about yourself. He's not making you feel bad -- you feel bad about yourself and don't see your own value and that is why his words are so heavy on you. A man calls you ugly and a loser and you reward him by telling him he'll always be special? You love him? You love the image that you met in the beginning. The guy that is berating you now is the douchebag he truly is. You love a man that puts you down? You're showering him with compliments because you're hoping he'll tell you what you want to hear. Stop doing that -- a man that insults you doesn't care about you. Forget what the ex is doing. What are you doing? You acknowledge that he has treated you badly -- so why are you seeking him out? He has nothing to give you. It's putting you in a bad light because you're now going to come off as the crazy ex that can't let go. Work through your pain and discomfort on your own. These people are the last people to help you. If anything, they will cause you more pain. Thank you for that. I will block them and delete anything that reminds me of them. Hes gone from my life for good now. His ex keeps blocking me on instagram then unblocking to insult me I will ignore her next message and block her, i'm just giving her what she wants 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted September 10, 2018 Share Posted September 10, 2018 Once again remember some of my rules that I post regularly on threads (either that I have created or someone else's): 1) If something doesn't seem right, it usually isn't. YOu may never know what that is or is not, but if you ignore things it will always haunt you. 2) Drama can happen but if it happens consistently with someone they are just looking to create it and feed off the frustrations of others. 3) Likes attract likes, when they attract those who don't want to be as dramatic as them, they don't know what to do other than do what they have been. 4) Don't take s*** from NOBODY. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted September 10, 2018 Share Posted September 10, 2018 Thank you for that. I will block them and delete anything that reminds me of them. Hes gone from my life for good now. His ex keeps blocking me on instagram then unblocking to insult me I will ignore her next message and block her, i'm just giving her what she wants Good for you! Boot all these toxic people out of your life. This is a new start and while it is painful, one day you're going to look back and feel so relieved that you took that step. You deserve a man that respects you and treats you like the prize that you are so don't accept or tolerate anything less. Stay strong. Work on your healing and lean on those that TRULY care and love you. Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Posted September 11, 2018 Share Posted September 11, 2018 Note from moderation, 3 threads were merged into one Link to post Share on other sites
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