Girlfriend on holiday

[JollyRancher]

Hello guys:) this may be long but please read if you can thank you

 

So i have been with my current girlfriend nearly 2 years now im 22 shes 20 and im not going to lie it has been a little toxic and a rollercoaster with a lot of falling outs and arguments especially this past year. We mainly argue over silly things like me getting paranoid over tiny things or her not seeing me a lot just a tiny background.

 

So here is the big problem right now thats occurred so few weeks ago she just got back from NYC with her family for 5 nights and the whole of that holiday we didn't speak due to falling out before she went so she got back and we was fine we celebrated my birthday had a nice meal then she tells me "Im off to spain for 2 weeks with all my family" so instantly i was like wtf?! as she told me months ago she wasn't going on this holiday so i asked why and she lied and said " I booked on it last minute due to us falling out" which is a lie because you cant book 2 weeks off work with a weeks notice lol and most importantly why the hell have i not being invited.

 

So my main concern is she's obviously been booked on this holiday months but been scared to tell me but why on earth hasn't she invited me or wanted me to go like every couple i know my age go on holidays with there familys etc so its very strange how 1. She didnt tell her parents she wanted me to go as she clearly didnt want me to go 2.

 

How she is going away for all this amount of time with her family is abnormal she shouldnt want to be apart from me that long and she should of wanted me to come.

So yeah in a nutshell i dont understand one bit why the hell my own girlfriend wouldnt invite me to go and why she would even wanna be apart for so long.

 

Thanks guys.

Edited August 11, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[d0nnivain]

I don't know anybody your age who ever went on holiday with the SOs family. IMO going would be weird.

 

You two have a rocky relationship. Perhaps on a whim, perhaps more calculated she wants time apart & this is the perfect excuse without actually saying she wants a break.

 

Don't fuss or grovel. Wish her well. Ask about communications while she will be OK. Then welcome her home with a romantic gesture.

[Otter2569]

What D0novain said and would you really want to spend 2 weeks with her and her family if your relationship is as rocky as you say?

 

I get being upset at how this is going down. It would bother me too but use the time apart to think about what you want, what you need and if she is the one for you.

[JollyRancher]

Yeah i get you.

 

But trust me most boyfriends/girlfriends get invited to go on family holidays not only that her brother invited his ex when they last went so she clearly just didnt want me to go.

 

Its just heart breaking and something i cant get my head round like i want answers but if i try ask she goes moody and ignores me she wont answer me shes always been that way and i know if i talk about it it will end in a big argument and thats why im coming here for help like it hurts thinking my own girlfriend didnt want me to go with her and clearly doesnt mind being apart from me when i cant go a day without her.

 

Its just strange because she wants to move in together but goes on a holiday with her family instead of me or inviting me and i want to see her a lot more than she does me but she wants to move in its weird.

[d0nnivain]

If you want to see her more then she wants to see you, then you probably should not move in together. Your relationship is not ready for that.

[kgcolonel]

Quick question on the trip? Were you expecting her parents to fund your costs while on the trip? Also, the more you cling to her on this topic or any other topic around wanting to go or the “why didn’t you invite me”, you’ll come across as weak and needy. Better you should simply tell her to have fun and you’ll look forward to seeing her when she’s back.

 

Having been there in the past, I know where this is headed.