dateme Posted August 10, 2018 Posted August 10, 2018 What's the deal ladies? When I ignore bartenders, waitresses, or other hot women they seem to want to flock around. I know bartenders are used to getting hit on but some of them are arrogant and it's a turn off. Last night I ignored one that seemed to like me the last time I saw her. But I'm not interested because she is arrogant. I even told her I didn't want drinks and she still kept coming over and trying to start a conversation. Even her friends wanted me to talk to her. Not interested. I was in another place and a waitress who I've always been nice too but never hit on and she usually has a bad attitude came over and stood right next to me. I said hey and we had a two sentence conversation then I went back to doing whatever I was doing. Then she just stood there for like 10 minutes then walked away. Not interested. Another girl I was interested in but she is overbearing and I have told our friends I do not like her. She continues to always come up to me flirting even though I bad mouth her to her face and when she isn't around. Is this normal behavior. I mean there were no previous sex or anything.
preraph Posted August 10, 2018 Posted August 10, 2018 Women in positions where they get too much attention, like bartenders, will find it a relief if someone is not hitting on them and feel more comfortable just talking to them. Doesn't mean she wants you necessarily. You seem a little antisocial about these women who are being friendly to you though, like you're just looking for an excuse to reject them. What's up? You know, that one you froze out that stood there for a while, you didn't have to go home with her, but there was no reason to not just be friendly and polite. 1
Author dateme Posted August 10, 2018 Author Posted August 10, 2018 Women in positions where they get too much attention, like bartenders, will find it a relief if someone is not hitting on them and feel more comfortable just talking to them. Doesn't mean she wants you necessarily. You seem a little antisocial about these women who are being friendly to you though, like you're just looking for an excuse to reject them. What's up? You know, that one you froze out that stood there for a while, you didn't have to go home with her, but there was no reason to not just be friendly and polite. I have seen her around for awhile. She was trying to flirt. I wasn't interested. And it's not just bartenders. I just used the latest circumstance.
Author dateme Posted August 10, 2018 Author Posted August 10, 2018 Women in positions where they get too much attention, like bartenders, will find it a relief if someone is not hitting on them and feel more comfortable just talking to them. Doesn't mean she wants you necessarily. You seem a little antisocial about these women who are being friendly to you though, like you're just looking for an excuse to reject them. What's up? You know, that one you froze out that stood there for a while, you didn't have to go home with her, but there was no reason to not just be friendly and polite. And I'm plenty social. That was just how I took care of it last night.
MountainGirl111 Posted August 10, 2018 Posted August 10, 2018 Dateme-it may not just be the fact that you are ignoring those gals. They might be drawn to you for other reasons. Maybe they just want to get to know you better. Doesn't mean they're expecting anything more. Also, if you are not hitting on them, they may view you are 'safe' and more likely to approach. Especially the bartender. She probably gets tired of being hit on and finds guys that don't hit on her refreshing. 1
Author dateme Posted August 11, 2018 Author Posted August 11, 2018 Dateme-it may not just be the fact that you are ignoring those gals. They might be drawn to you for other reasons. Maybe they just want to get to know you better. Doesn't mean they're expecting anything more. Also, if you are not hitting on them, they may view you are 'safe' and more likely to approach. Especially the bartender. She probably gets tired of being hit on and finds guys that don't hit on her refreshing. 3 weeks ago when she was off she sat next to me at the bar and talked my head off. And was being very overbearing. I was nice. And she told me 3-4 times to come in on Thursdays which is her day to work. The only reason I went in last night was to watch the football game. I forgot about her until I saw her. And she kept coming around. I just lost interest from the first conversation. I wasn't hitting on her and just conversating. She seemed to like me then but kept insinuating that I and all guys need to chase her. So that killed all attraction I had for her. I guess she felt I was going to be on her. But I was not. Her attitude is stank. I feel if I was interested and tried to talk to her then she would want me to chase. So it's interesting that she pretty much wet her pants to be all in my area. All because I was ignoring her. Women are weird.
preraph Posted August 11, 2018 Posted August 11, 2018 Well, I don't know, maybe you are hanging out at the wrong place! Maybe you've already fished that pond and need to find a bigger pond. These women just think they might like you, but you don't like them, so no harm, no foul. I get the feeling you wish the bartender was someone she's not and that if she would act different, you might be interested, but this is who she is, so at least you know now before getting in deep.
Doost Posted August 11, 2018 Posted August 11, 2018 Just make sure you ignore the girls you like if this works so well for you
MountainGirl111 Posted August 11, 2018 Posted August 11, 2018 3 weeks ago when she was off she sat next to me at the bar and talked my head off. And was being very overbearing. I was nice. And she told me 3-4 times to come in on Thursdays which is her day to work. The only reason I went in last night was to watch the football game. I forgot about her until I saw her. And she kept coming around. I just lost interest from the first conversation. I wasn't hitting on her and just conversating. She seemed to like me then but kept insinuating that I and all guys need to chase her. So that killed all attraction I had for her. I guess she felt I was going to be on her. But I was not. Her attitude is stank. I feel if I was interested and tried to talk to her then she would want me to chase. So it's interesting that she pretty much wet her pants to be all in my area. All because I was ignoring her. Women are weird. Dude! You didn't have to just sit there and listen to her. You were nice, right? Okay, well, then you didn't ignore her did you? You're putting entirely too much thought into this one chick you don't even like. I'd just go to a different bar if I were you.
anduina Posted August 11, 2018 Posted August 11, 2018 Male and female bartenders and wait staff flirt with customers to get bigger tips. If you're coming across unfriendly or mad, they'll try to charm you so you don't threaten their livelihood. 1
coolheadal Posted August 11, 2018 Posted August 11, 2018 Male and female bartenders and wait staff flirt with customers to get bigger tips. If you're coming across unfriendly or mad, they'll try to charm you so you don't threaten their livelihood. Not all the time though with the tips. OP just not ready for these sort of women. Most are in college or have a huge family to take care. Aggressive woman would be a living hell to be with, just go there and watch the game like everyone else did yesterday, go JETS! LOL
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