If a woman doesn't pay child support would she be a good mate?

[dateme]

I have lady friends who are divorced and ordered to pay child support to the child's father. Some are behind and don't even pay. I don't date them because we are friends. But are they considered a good catch? Or a deadbeat mom?

[Malin889]

My daughter’s father did not pay child support for a long time (we just went back to court to get the department of revenue to regulate it.) Anyway, I guarantee you these people don’t tell prospective dates that they don’t pay child support. Or they always seem to have an excuse that prospective dates believe. The fact that you know this is a good thing. It’s their kids for Pete’s sake. If someone is not paying child support, that’s a pretty ****** thing.

[BaileyB]

I have lady friends who are divorced and ordered to pay child support to the child's father. Some are behind and don't even pay. I don't date them because we are friends. But are they considered a good catch? Or a deadbeat mom?

 

Do you really have to ask this question...

 

Perhaps, she also kicks puppies, steals the candy from children, and pushes old ladies over on the street...

 

I know someone who has refused to pay child support. His wages had to be garnished and now, he's not working so there is nothing to garnish... Amazingly, he has had a series of relationships and lived with several women until they have discovered that he is not a good catch - mooching off them, taking advantage of the free housing, and any other number of bad things... He eventually landed on his behind, waiting only for his next victim to come along and volunteer...

[dateme]

My daughter’s father did not pay child support for a long time (we just went back to court to get the department of revenue to regulate it.) Anyway, I guarantee you these people don’t tell prospective dates that they don’t pay child support. Or they always seem to have an excuse that prospective dates believe. The fact that you know this is a good thing. It’s their kids for Pete’s sake. If someone is not paying child support, that’s a pretty ****** thing.

 

Interesting. There's always a void in society.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

Interesting. There's always a void in society.

 

What does that mean?

[dateme]

Do you really have to ask this question...

 

Perhaps, she also kicks puppies, steals the candy from children, and pushes old ladies over on the street...

 

I know someone who has refused to pay child support. His wages had to be garnished and now, he's not working so there is nothing to garnish... Amazingly, he has had a series of relationships and lived with several women until they have discovered that he is not a good catch - mooching off them, taking advantage of the free housing, and any other number of bad things... He eventually landed on his behind, waiting only for his next victim to come along and volunteer...

 

A lot of women feel they shouldn't have to do what a man historically has. Even if they were the bred winner or don't have custody.

[somanymistakes]

Some people are jerks.

 

Are they good mate material? Well, that's up to you! Do you like jerks?

 

Do you want to marry someone completely selfish who ignores her children in favor of herself? Hey, who am I to judge your personal taste?

 

Okay, I'm lying, I will totally judge your personal taste. But you shouldn't need us to tell you whether it's a good idea or not.

[BaileyB]

A lot of women feel they shouldn't have to do what a man historically has. Even if they were the bred winner or don't have custody.

 

Says who? You?

[Woggle]

If you want to have fun go ahead but don't expect who can't even be loyal to her own children to be loyal to anybody else.

[Malin889]

What does that mean?

 

I was wondering the same thing...

[somanymistakes]

Says who? You?

 

Eh, I've seen women complain about being asked to pay child support and alimony.

 

However, their complaints are generally 100% identical to the men who complain about being asked to pay child support and alimony.

 

I read divorce forums and no matter which partner makes more money they're usually shocked when they realise they now have to pay their spouse $X every month.

 

It's the same complaint from both of them. "But it's my money! My ex is a useless leech! Why should I pay him/her? How do I know he/she will really use it on the children?!?"

[dateme]

If you want to have fun go ahead but don't expect who can't even be loyal to her own children to be loyal to anybody else.

 

Good post. I don't think men or women understand this dynamic. I date women so for women who are un loyal parents this may be good info to know where you stand in society.

[basil67]

I have lady friends who are divorced and ordered to pay child support to the child's father. Some are behind and don't even pay. I don't date them because we are friends. But are they considered a good catch? Or a deadbeat mom?

 

If they are friends, then you would see how attractive they are to other men. So you tell us: are they considered a good catch?