Trouble with ex relationship

[iques1]

Hey everyone,

 

I could really need your help on somehing that is bothering me a lot these days.

In October last year, I started a relationship with someone. However, pretty quickly it turned out to be a very bad relationship, we had fights early on and rarely any happy times together. We were talking about breaking up again already after 1.5 months, though we never really did.

 

In February this year then, I found out that she was secretely texting with another guy. I broke up with her, just to get back with her the next day. After this event, my trust was entirely gone, but I didn't have the strength to break up and stick with my decision (I guess because I'm living far away from any friends and family and didn't really have anyone else here).

So we kept the relationship, but it was really on and off. One day we spent happily together, the next day we talked about breaking up. I couldn't even count the times we said that we break up and then got back to each other.

 

In April then I got to know another woman, but I kept my distances, because technically I had a girlfirend. End of April things with my girlfriend were so bad that it really didn't deserve to be called a relationship.

 

Then one day in May, I broke up again. Same thing as usual... in the two days after the break up, we met and we kissed as well... BUT we didn't say that we are together.

 

The third day after I broke up, that woman I got to know in April invited me to go to a bar with her and her friends. I was fed up with my girlfriend and went to the bar and even though I was texting with my girlfriend while I was at the bar, I didn't tell her where I was. However, I left the bar a little early because I felt bad, since my girlfriend was still so present.

 

Anyway... my girlfriend found out that I met this other woman and finally she blocked me on all channels. Three days later, I met her again and it was clear that things are finally over! After that day, I never heard anything from her ever again and I didn't make any attempt to contact her.

 

Sorry for this long story. Now my actual problem.

 

2 weeks after this happened, the woman from the bar asked to meet again. We met a couple of times and as things turned out, we started a relationship.

During one of our first dates, she asked me when my last relationship ended (she didn't know anything about my ex girlfriend because things with her were so messed up that I never wanted to mention her). I said my last relationship ended three months ago in February (having the day in mind when I found out about my ex talking to that other guy).

 

Later on, I felt bad about what I said and added that the relationship ended 3 months ago, but we kept seeing each other until shortly before I met my new girlfriend in the bar.

 

However, this still makes me feel like not being entirely honest, because in fact "officially" the relationship didn't end in February.

I actually can't even tell when it officially ended. Was it the day I met the other woman in the bar? Was it before that? I really don't know.. I just know that it was a dead and toxic relationship and not really worth being called a relationship after what happened it February.

 

Do you guys think I'm overthinking this and what I told my current girlfriend is fine? Or do you think it wasn't entirely honest, because even after February we called it a relationship and behaved like in a relationship to a certain extent?

Edited August 13, 2018 by iques1

[MountainGirl111]

Hey everyone,

 

 

Do you guys think I'm overthinking this and what I told my current girlfriend is fine? Or do you think it wasn't entirely honest, because even after February we called it a relationship and behaved like in a relationship to a certain extent?

 

I think you might be overthinking this. Try not to get hung up on "technicalities". The good news is the bad relationship is finally over and you get to try again for something better.

[iques1]

Yes you're right, that's what I was thinking as well. It's just that I can't help it to somehow feel bad about it and I'm wondering if maybe it'd help to be more open to my current girlfriend about this.

On the other hand however, I'm scared to trouble my relationship (which is really going great otherwise) for nothing. Maybe me feeling bad about this thing will pass over time.