Zahara Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 Ok tell me do u believe in soulmate coz his bff was doing some numerological astrology and said that if 1 of their birthday numbers came out to be the exact same, then it is a soulmate connection and unfortunately 1 of those numbers came out exact same. He told me to leave him based on this but i just wanted comfirmation I don't believe in soul mates. I believe that in your lifetime you will meet more than one person that will deeply touch your life. So, he told you to leave him? Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 I dont think yhey will ever meet again so it could mean he may realise that just attractive looks isnt everything and fall for me? You need to listen. He is not in love with you. You are a benefit that he is using. You are a temporary fixture in his life until he moves on to someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Noah22 Posted August 14, 2018 Author Share Posted August 14, 2018 9I don't believe in soul mates. I believe that in your lifetime you will meet more than one person that will deeply touch your life. So, he told you to leave him? Yes. He was the one who knows all and he was the one my bf told about her and he was also showing his abdomen to him asking how he looks etc after showing her to him Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 9 Yes. He was the one who knows all and he was the one my bf told about her and he was also showing his abdomen to him asking how he looks etc after showing her to him He probably knows more about their dealings and is trying to help you see the light, hence telling you to leave him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Noah22 Posted August 14, 2018 Author Share Posted August 14, 2018 He probably knows more about their dealings and is trying to help you see the light, hence telling you to leave him. All he told me was my bf would talk to her when he was out of sight from.the people who know him and the girl didnt lime this so she stop talking. My bf was angry and ignored her but then suddenly turned gentle toward her and start talking to her on his own. Always greeting her. Following her for a talk. She responded but didnt go after him coz he would keep on walking so he got mad at her. Also she went to talk it out with him but he was angry and showed resentment to her Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 All he told me was my bf would talk to her when he was out of sight from.the people who know him and the girl didnt lime this so she stop talking. My bf was angry and ignored her but then suddenly turned gentle toward her and start talking to her on his own. Always greeting her. Following her for a talk. She responded but didnt go after him coz he would keep on walking so he got mad at her. Also she went to talk it out with him but he was angry and showed resentment to her All means nothing. The issue at stake is your lack of self-esteem and value and how little you believe you deserve. This guy is not your problem anymore. The bigger picture is how much you have devalued yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Noah22 Posted August 14, 2018 Author Share Posted August 14, 2018 All means nothing. The issue at stake is your lack of self-esteem and value and how little you believe you deserve. This guy is not your problem anymore. The bigger picture is how much you have devalued yourself. What happened in this sotuation which i wrote above as i dont understand? Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 What happened in this sotuation which i wrote above as i dont understand? We are telling you that you need to reclaim yourself by working on your self-worth because you've completely devalued yourself. Your self-esteem is broken. We are telling you that this guy does not love you. We are telling you that you will never have a loving relationship with him. We are telling you that he will leave you when he secures another woman. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 You like him. He has sex with you but he likes her. Even if she leaves & never comes back, that will not cause him to like you. He already thinks you have limited value. He doesn't respect you because you continue sleeping with him even though he's chasing her & not giving you what you crave. I suspect that once graduation happens you will never see or hear from him again. He will not put in the effort to sustain an LDR. Right now you are simply easy, no strings attached sex. He's down with that but not more. So to answer your original Q, no I do not think he loves you. I also don't think there is anything you can do to make him love you. If you have any self respect you will cut contact with him & never have sex with him again. Then you will get yourself a proper BF who loves, values & respects you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Noah22 Posted August 14, 2018 Author Share Posted August 14, 2018 You like him. He has sex with you but he likes her. Even if she leaves & never comes back, that will not cause him to like you. He already thinks you have limited value. He doesn't respect you because you continue sleeping with him even though he's chasing her & not giving you what you crave. I suspect that once graduation happens you will never see or hear from him again. He will not put in the effort to sustain an LDR. Right now you are simply easy, no strings attached sex. He's down with that but not more. So to answer your original Q, no I do not think he loves you. I also don't think there is anything you can do to make him love you. If you have any self respect you will cut contact with him & never have sex with him again. Then you will get yourself a proper BF who loves, values & respects you. He already graduated last year and moved back here to stay with our friends so u are wrong there Link to post Share on other sites
Author Noah22 Posted August 14, 2018 Author Share Posted August 14, 2018 We are telling you that you need to reclaim yourself by working on your self-worth because you've completely devalued yourself. Your self-esteem is broken. We are telling you that this guy does not love you. We are telling you that you will never have a loving relationship with him. We are telling you that he will leave you when he secures another woman. Pls explain that situation Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 He already graduated last year and moved back here to stay with our friends so u are wrong there OK I'll rephrase: Once you two no longer live in the same general area he will not see you anymore. Are you planning to stay at the university location when you graduate? Because once you move you will never see or hear from him again It's not the diploma but the distance that will end your interactions 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 Pls explain that situation What situation? I'm not sure what needs anymore explaining. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 Ok little info. My bf is a white guy and both of us are scandinavians but our heritage is different. I'm latina by roots and hes jewish. But this girl is not european or white. She is ethnic . Their race is different, their religion is different, everything is different. There is a huge gap so i do not understand what level of attraction can he have towards a girl so vastly different from him. That too at 1st sight. He's probably finds her beautiful because she looks different than all of you due to her ethnic background. It happens. Noah, you need to find a therapist to help you get over this obsession. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 What situation? I'm not sure what needs anymore explaining. It never stops it just goes round and round like a carousel. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 It never stops it just goes round and round like a carousel. Very true. I think she's hoping someone is going to say something she wants to hear. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Noah22 Posted August 14, 2018 Author Share Posted August 14, 2018 He's probably finds her beautiful because she looks different than all of you due to her ethnic background. It happens. Noah, you need to find a therapist to help you get over this obsession. Well both of us have black hair. Except i have lighter skin and green eyes and shes olive toned with basic brown eyes and dark hair so i dont see any appeal. He is also dark haired but has light eyes like me Link to post Share on other sites
Author Noah22 Posted August 14, 2018 Author Share Posted August 14, 2018 What situation? I'm not sure what needs anymore explaining. His attitude towards her Link to post Share on other sites
Exformer Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 Okay, surely this person is just trolling the boards. Any points made are completely deflected with some left field comment that has nothing to do with it...from saying the girl this guy likes more than her argues with him...to thinking race plays a factor. You can only say in so many ways to a real person they have zero hope of being loved by someone they wish loved them, and not have it get across to them. I'm calling fake. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 His attitude towards her Explained in post #32. I am sure there are other posters who have chimed in as well. Maybe if you read the thread you will find your answers to your repeated questions. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 Okay, surely this person is just trolling the boards. Any points made are completely deflected with some left field comment that has nothing to do with it...from saying the girl this guy likes more than her argues with him...to thinking race plays a factor. You can only say in so many ways to a real person they have zero hope of being loved by someone they wish loved them, and not have it get across to them. I'm calling fake. Yeah, I'm stepping away from this thread. It's exactly the same as the last one. https://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/cheating-flirting-jealousy/660743-what-behaviour 1 Link to post Share on other sites
brigit87 Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 All he told me was my bf would talk to her when he was out of sight from.the people who know him and the girl didnt lime this so she stop talking. My bf was angry and ignored her but then suddenly turned gentle toward her and start talking to her on his own. Always greeting her. Following her for a talk. She responded but didnt go after him coz he would keep on walking so he got mad at her. Also she went to talk it out with him but he was angry and showed resentment to her OMG Noah. You're seriously obsessing and need help. Call a therapist or a hotline. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 This thread is a great study on self-worth and self-awareness. In a weird way I think it's actually snapped me out of some of my own self-worth issues. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ElKay Posted August 15, 2018 Share Posted August 15, 2018 You are beating a dead horse at this point with this second thread... :/ Link to post Share on other sites
Author Noah22 Posted August 15, 2018 Author Share Posted August 15, 2018 OMG Noah. You're seriously obsessing and need help. Call a therapist or a hotline. I'm simply asking . Link to post Share on other sites
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