Does he love me ?

[Zahara]

I'm simply asking .

 

You’ve been given the same advice and opinions in all your threads, even the ones you’ve posted under different usernames.

 

Asking the same question repeatedly isn’t going to change the answers or your situation. Read your threads and be self-aware or stay deluded.

 

If you still can’t get it, then you do need to seek professional help because you’re obsession and insistence is disturbing.

[Noah22]

You’ve been given the same advice and opinions in all your threads, even the ones you’ve posted under different usernames.

 

Asking the same question repeatedly isn’t going to change the answers or your situation. Read your threads and be self-aware or stay deluded.

 

If you still can’t get it, then you do need to seek professional help because you’re obsession and insistence is disturbing.

 

I said numerous times i only want to know his attitude towards her and our relationship

[Zahara]

I said numerous times i only want to know his attitude towards her and our relationship

 

And you've asked that question so many times in so many different ways and posters have responded to you with opinions and thoughts. Go back and read all your threads.

 

Asking it over and over again is not going to change your reality.

 

He likes her. He is using you. He does not love you. You need to walk away. Period. It's very simple to grasp.

[Noah22]

And you've asked that question so many times in so many different ways and posters have responded to you with opinions and thoughts. Go back and read all your threads.

 

Asking it over and over again is not going to change your reality.

 

He likes her. He is using you. He does not love you. You need to walk away. Period. It's very simple to grasp.

 

I meant if someone likes someone then how can they get angry and destroy their own choice and prioritise me by going out with me/sex/fun things ?

[brigit87]

I meant if someone likes someone then how can they get angry and destroy their own choice and prioritise me by going out with me/sex/fun things ?

 

I've changed my mind...

 

Yeah, this guy is sooooooooooooooooooo in love with you. He can't stop thinking about you.

 

So, he is going to win you by dating other women and eventually getting married to one of them and buy a house and have kids with another woman. But don't worry he really loves you. So you will need to leave him alone to marry someone else and maybe one day he will contact you to have an affair and you can post in the OW section and ask if he's going to leave his wife for you.

[Zahara]

I meant if someone likes someone then how can they get angry and destroy their own choice and prioritise me by going out with me/sex/fun things ?

 

Again this has been addressed in ALL your threads.

 

He gets angry because he cannot have her. He is angry because she did not give him what he wanted. He is angry because she was not responding to him the way he wanted.

 

He is not prioritizing you. He is just having sex and fun with you. You are an easy option for him. You are a casual lover. He gets what he wants from you with zero commitment. Most guys would love to have easy sex and fun with no strings attached. And that is what you have with him. Again, affection does not mean love.

 

I'm not sure how else anyone can spell it out to you.

Edited August 15, 2018 by Zahara

[Noah22]

Again this has been addressed in ALL your threads.

 

He gets angry because he cannot have her. He is angry because she did not give him what he wanted. He is angry because she was not responding to him the way he wanted.

 

He is not prioritizing you. He is just having sex and fun with you. You are an easy option for him. You are a casual lover. He gets what he wants from you with zero commitment. Most guys would love to have easy sex and fun with no strings attached. And that is what you have with him. Again, affection does not mean love.

 

I'm not sure how else anyone can spell it out to you.

 

Fine. But wouldnt this anger lead to hate and losing feelings for her?

[Zahara]

Fine. But wouldnt this anger lead to hate and losing feelings for her?

 

Nope. And even if it did, he still doesn't love you. He will use you until another woman of interest comes along.

[stillafool]

Noah have you ever asked him any of these questions? He is the one who has the answers to your questions, have you asked him yet?

[Noah22]

Nope. And even if it did, he still doesn't love you. He will use you until another woman of interest comes along.

 

But why not? Doesnt anger lead to hate eventually??

[Zahara]

But why not? Doesnt anger lead to hate eventually??

 

So your thought process is that if he hates her he will then love you?

[Noah22]

So your thought process is that if he hates her he will then love you?

 

He may realise looks or exoticness isnt everything?

[Zahara]

He may realise looks or exoticness isnt everything?

 

Noah, you have been his casual lover since you met him. He has not promoted you to anything more but sex and fun.

 

Tomorrow, he may be attracted to a goat, you will still be in the same position that you are in now. He may lose attraction for that goat, and move on to a horse, you will still be in the position that you are in because this man has treated you as a person who provides sex and fun. You've been objectified. And when a man knows that you require little to nothing to maintain, his view of you is devalued and you become unattractive and unappealing to him as a potential partner but he will continue to use you because it is easy. Once he has lost respect for you, he isn't going to promote you.

 

So you can stay until he hates her or until he doesn't like her eye color or her nationality, etc. He will just focus elsewhere until someone else catches his attention.

 

You noted that you have self-worth. Unfortunately, you don't because your insistence to cling is indicative of how little self-respect and value you see in yourself.

[Noah22]

Noah, you have been his casual lover since you met him. He has not promoted you to anything more but sex and fun.

 

Tomorrow, he may be attracted to a goat, you will still be in the same position that you are in now. He may lose attraction for that goat, and move on to a horse, you will still be in the position that you are in because this man has treated you as a person who provides sex and fun. You've been objectified. And when a man knows that you require little to nothing to maintain, his view of you is devalued and you become unattractive and unappealing to him as a potential partner but he will continue to use you because it is easy. Once he has lost respect for you, he isn't going to promote you.

 

So you can stay until he hates her or until he doesn't like her eye color or her nationality, etc. He will just focus elsewhere until someone else catches his attention.

 

You noted that you have self-worth. Unfortunately, you don't because your insistence to cling is indicative of how little self-respect and value you see in yourself.

 

So u think he wants her genuinely hence the 1 year thing and anger? -_-

[Zahara]

So u think he wants her genuinely hence the 1 year thing and anger? -_-

 

Yes, he wanted/wants her. And if he doesn't get her, at some point he is going to want another woman. You are not and will not be the one that he loves or wants.

[Noah22]

Yes, he wanted/wants her. And if he doesn't get her, at some point he is going to want another woman. You are not and will not be the one that he loves or wants.

 

But why not? We ve been friends too and hes so flirtatious with me, taking me out. I even smoke from tje same cigs he already smoked so why not. Inspite of being everything and him enjoying times with ke whether hanging out or sex then why not

[Zahara]

But why not? We ve been friends too and hes so flirtatious with me, taking me out. I even smoke from tje same cigs he already smoked so why not. Inspite of being everything and him enjoying times with ke whether hanging out or sex then why not

 

Explained in post 81 and 88 and the countless other times other posters have noted. My god.

 

He is not attracted to you that way - just sees you as sex and fun.

[d0nnivain]

Doesnt anger lead to hate eventually??

 

No. hate & love are opposite sides of the same coin. They are both fire & passion. His annoyance with her is more like intellectual foreplay for him.

 

 

He feels nothing for you, perhaps friendship or kindness but it's some bland emotion not all consuming passion that he has for her whether love or hate.

 

 

Apathy, not hate, is the opposite of love.

 

But since you won't listen to us, keep chasing after him like a lovesick puppy, sleep with him whenever he will have you & waste your youth on him but don't cry when you wake up 30 & alone.

[Noah22]

No. hate & love are opposite sides of the same coin. They are both fire & passion. His annoyance with her is more like intellectual foreplay for him.

 

 

He feels nothing for you, perhaps friendship or kindness but it's some bland emotion not all consuming passion that he has for her whether love or hate.

 

 

Apathy, not hate, is the opposite of love.

 

But since you won't listen to us, keep chasing after him like a lovesick puppy, sleep with him whenever he will have you & waste your youth on him but don't cry when you wake up 30 & alone.

 

What is intellectual foreplay??

[Noah22]

Explained in post 81 and 88 and the countless other times other posters have noted. My god.

 

He is not attracted to you that way - just sees you as sex and fun.

 

But how can mem have sex and go out with 1 girl but love anotjer?

[stillafool]

But how can mem have sex and go out with 1 girl but love anotjer?

 

Because men need sex and will pretty much have it with any woman who is available and willing.

[stillafool]

Have you asked him about his feelings for her yet?

[Noah22]

Have you asked him about his feelings for her yet?

 

No i cant.

[Noah22]

Because men need sex and will pretty much have it with any woman who is available and willing.

 

But how do they separate love then??? Won't constant sex with 1 girl cause him to fall in love? How come he fall for a girl he hasnt slept with or even has trouble touching or even speaking confidently?

 

I know for a fact that he cant even frame a single sentence properly and he had to push himself coz she quit talking to him. While hes so free and flirty with me . Then how

[stillafool]

Noah, how many times do I have to tell you that sex doesn't equal love. A man can have sex with 5 women in one day and not feel love for any of them. So can a Prostitute. FWBs have sex but not love. Surely you know this already. He's fantasizing about this girl 24/7 and his obsession is keeping him in love.