Author Noah22 Posted August 20, 2018 Author Share Posted August 20, 2018 Everyone now realizes he loves you. He's head over heels. So now you've got your answer and we can end this thread. Goodbye and Goodluck Now sarcasm ? Wow Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 20, 2018 Share Posted August 20, 2018 Hes giving me priority not her why cant u all see that! Classic. When theres no answer and all answers will be wrong then humiliate a person and run from the threads �� stillafool did the same. When i told her she liked him, she ran off too. No Noah, I left because you admitted that your boyfriend is giving you priority over this other girl so therefore your problem is solved and there's nothing left for me to offer. You got what you wanted so now the thread is coming to an end. Glad for you that he made you the priority and you now have nothing left to worry about. Link to post Share on other sites
Amethyst68 Posted August 20, 2018 Share Posted August 20, 2018 I admit I haven't read the full thread but just wondered if you've ever read the infidelity or OM/OW forums. There are plenty of examples there of people who are emotionally attached but still able to create new "relationships"with other people. Emotionally, physically or both! Also after 2 years don't you think you should be able to have a full , frank and open discussion with your BF regarding your relationship status and it's exclusivity? If not I would be more worried about that than some girl who, according to you, doesn't live in the same country and is no threat. If he is unwilling to discuss it with you this should raise all kinds of red flags. You should be prepared though to hear something you may not want to hear BUT you can only find out by asking. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Noah22 Posted August 20, 2018 Author Share Posted August 20, 2018 No Noah, I left because you admitted that your boyfriend is giving you priority over this other girl so therefore your problem is solved and there's nothing left for me to offer. You got what you wanted so now the thread is coming to an end. Glad for you that he made you the priority and you now have nothing left to worry about. No u didnt. U asked how i knew she liked him and when i told u, u didnt respond Link to post Share on other sites
Author Noah22 Posted August 20, 2018 Author Share Posted August 20, 2018 I admit I haven't read the full thread but just wondered if you've ever read the infidelity or OM/OW forums. There are plenty of examples there of people who are emotionally attached but still able to create new "relationships"with other people. Emotionally, physically or both! Also after 2 years don't you think you should be able to have a full , frank and open discussion with your BF regarding your relationship status and it's exclusivity? If not I would be more worried about that than some girl who, according to you, doesn't live in the same country and is no threat. If he is unwilling to discuss it with you this should raise all kinds of red flags. You should be prepared though to hear something you may not want to hear BUT you can only find out by asking. We dont talk about this Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 20, 2018 Share Posted August 20, 2018 We dont talk about this Why not? He's the one who has your answers. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 20, 2018 Share Posted August 20, 2018 No u didnt. U asked how i knew she liked him and when i told u, u didnt respond Why would I respond to a statement you made? It wasn't a question. Your questions have been answered 4 times each. Just look back through this thread when you need answers as they are all here. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Noah22 Posted August 20, 2018 Author Share Posted August 20, 2018 Why would I respond to a statement you made? It wasn't a question. Your questions have been answered 4 times each. Just look back through this thread when you need answers as they are all here. Because that is a main point. When she liked him and tried to clarified the matter then why such anger and resentment and kicking her off and prioritizing me??? Nobody answered this. Zahara said hes emotionally attached but didnt answer this either Link to post Share on other sites
Author Noah22 Posted August 20, 2018 Author Share Posted August 20, 2018 I admit I haven't read the full thread but just wondered if you've ever read the infidelity or OM/OW forums. There are plenty of examples there of people who are emotionally attached but still able to create new "relationships"with other people. Emotionally, physically or both! Also after 2 years don't you think you should be able to have a full , frank and open discussion with your BF regarding your relationship status and it's exclusivity? If not I would be more worried about that than some girl who, according to you, doesn't live in the same country and is no threat. If he is unwilling to discuss it with you this should raise all kinds of red flags. You should be prepared though to hear something you may not want to hear BUT you can only find out by asking. Wait u also think hes emotionally attached to her? Link to post Share on other sites
Amethyst68 Posted August 20, 2018 Share Posted August 20, 2018 (edited) II have no idea if he's emotionally attached or not the only person who can answer that is him. You need to take her out of the equation and talk to him. You don't even have to mention her in the conversation. to be honest I think she is largely irrelevant but until you know where you are with the relationship I think you'll never feel secure (just my opinion) Why don't you discuss this? 2 years is a long time to not talk. Does he ever talk about or plan a future with you? Do your families know about each other? After 2 years these are things you should be thinking about or is this only meant to be a university romance and you don't expect it to continue. You are the only person who decides how high a level of treatment you will accept and that includes having a BF who will not discuss anything you! Edited August 20, 2018 by Amethyst68 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 20, 2018 Share Posted August 20, 2018 Because that is a main point. When she liked him and tried to clarified the matter then why such anger and resentment and kicking her off and prioritizing me??? Nobody answered this. Zahara said hes emotionally attached but didnt answer this either Noah, that's because the only person who knows the answer to that question is him. We are not the Psychic Network and none of us can read his mind. Just ask him why. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Noah22 Posted August 20, 2018 Author Share Posted August 20, 2018 Noah, that's because the only person who knows the answer to that question is him. We are not the Psychic Network and none of us can read his mind. Just ask him why. He wont tell as i cannot ask him. He and his friend live together and are like brothers. If i speak then he will definitely snap our relationship. He overlooks everything our friend does so he will never go beyond confronting and i dont confrontation or fights. At least u could guess since u all are so adamant that he doesnt love me based on what i wrote so why not in this case? Link to post Share on other sites
Amethyst68 Posted August 20, 2018 Share Posted August 20, 2018 This is why I said you had to talk to him about you and him, your relationship! You can have that conversation without mentioning her or his friend. If he is a grown man he should be able to sit and talk with you, he should know you enough by now to realise you need reassurance about your relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
JuneL Posted August 20, 2018 Share Posted August 20, 2018 This is why I said you had to talk to him about you and him, your relationship! You can have that conversation without mentioning her or his friend. If he is a grown man he should be able to sit and talk with you, he should know you enough by now to realise you need reassurance about your relationship. She has no right to ask him, as she’s just his fwb, not a gf. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 20, 2018 Share Posted August 20, 2018 Noah the answer to that question and any other questions you can find in these posts: #6,#11,#17,#18,#19,#22,#24,#26,#27,#28,#32,#37,#39,#59,#62,#64,#81,#83,#88,#90,#100,#102,#103,#106,#110,#143 and #153. But, none of the above should matter to you anymore because of your statement below. Why worry about the rest if you're getting what you want from him. Hes giving me priority not her why cant u all see that! Just one more thing Noah, you said you have green eyes and this girl has only "basic brown eyes". Do you know how many songs that have been made about brown eyes? Quite a few. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Noah22 Posted August 20, 2018 Author Share Posted August 20, 2018 Noah the answer to that question and any other questions you can find in these posts: #6,#11,#17,#18,#19,#22,#24,#26,#27,#28,#32,#37,#39,#59,#62,#64,#81,#83,#88,#90,#100,#102,#103,#106,#110,#143 and #153. But, none of the above should matter to you anymore because of your statement below. Why worry about the rest if you're getting what you want from him. Just one more thing Noah, you said you have green eyes and this girl has only "basic brown eyes". Do you know how many songs that have been made about brown eyes? Quite a few. What is your point on eyes? Brown is most common color while green is rarest if you dont know Link to post Share on other sites
PinkPampies Posted August 20, 2018 Share Posted August 20, 2018 Noah is this your thread also under a different user name? https://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/653168-he-dumped-me-update-merged-threads Link to post Share on other sites
Author Noah22 Posted August 20, 2018 Author Share Posted August 20, 2018 Noah is this your thread also under a different user name? https://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/653168-he-dumped-me-update-merged-threads Yes it is my thread under my middle name Link to post Share on other sites
PinkPampies Posted August 20, 2018 Share Posted August 20, 2018 Your posts are all over the place with your other username. I don’t see where you’ve had a boyfriend for 2 years - this post was from February when he “broke up with you”. I don’t know if you have too much time on your hands or you need help, but people take time out of their lives to try and help people on these boards. I don’t think anyone can help you here. You need a professional real therapist to help you. Again, just someone trying to help you here. That’s the best advice I can give you. I think there’s deeper problems than just “does he love me?” And “what is this behavior” and all the other posts under your other username plus the lies. If you found a professional, they would be able to help you get to the root of your behavior and issues. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
brigit87 Posted August 20, 2018 Share Posted August 20, 2018 Your posts are all over the place with your other username. I don’t see where you’ve had a boyfriend for 2 years - this post was from February when he “broke up with you”. I don’t know if you have too much time on your hands or you need help, but people take time out of their lives to try and help people on these boards. I don’t think anyone can help you here. You need a professional real therapist to help you. Again, just someone trying to help you here. That’s the best advice I can give you. I think there’s deeper problems than just “does he love me?” And “what is this behavior” and all the other posts under your other username plus the lies. If you found a professional, they would be able to help you get to the root of your behavior and issues. It's true Noah. There is no shame in needing professional help. Sometimes obsession and mania and depression get all wrapped up together and can rule your life. This guy must make you feel good about yourself sometimes which is why you're focused on him or the feeling he gives you that you like. He doesn't love you. But more importantly YOU don't love you. This is the problem that needs addressing. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 20, 2018 Share Posted August 20, 2018 What is your point on eyes? Brown is most common color while green is rarest if you dont know I know. I have green eyes myself which is really rare considering my race. If I'm not mistaken Black eyes are the rarest. The reason I brought it up is your comment sounded as if because she has brown eyes they are nothing special and I just want you to know men go crazy over big brown eyes or brown eyes period as there have been many songs made about that eye color. Link to post Share on other sites
dream of me Posted August 20, 2018 Share Posted August 20, 2018 Noah, you persistence and denial is amazing. Not in a good or bad way, but quite unusual. I won't say what everyone else has said. They are probably right. But I can understand where you're coming from, so my opinion it this. You're asking us whether he loves you. Well, probably not enough but doesn't hurt to ask HIM. Make a full blown confession about how you feel about him and about this woman. Let it all out until there's nothing left to say... In case you never talk again after this. Then ask him these four questions: 'do you love me? are you in love with me? do you see a future with me? can you live without me?'. Ask him. Listen very carefully to what he says and take it at face value. And then be ready to leave the room and his life. Link to post Share on other sites
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