smile95 Posted September 5, 2005 Share Posted September 5, 2005 ok first I want to say......this question is not for me.......so don't all ya'll freak out and think I am thinking of giving rat boy another chance-lol My best friend was with her man for 5 yrs.....they broke up becasue of him. He made all kinds of excuses......turns out he had another girl he wanted to date....so he did and she moved on....now....that gal broke it off with him and he dated 3 other girls and is single now and wants this original girl back. She loves him, but he cheated. So, my question is .....do guys think (and I am sure girls do too) that the grass is greener and then find out it is not. THey were each others first love so maybe he just wanted to see what was out there? I am not sure what to tell her. If I only had 1 guy, maybe I would want to see what was out there too? (Altho I would not cheat to do it). But is it common for people to think the grass is greener and then realize that it is not? I think that people never appreciate what they have til it is too late...... I want to tell her to give him another chance, but if he had not cheated, it would be so much easier to say that! I know it is up to her, but is it wrong of me to tell her it is ok to go back after he cheated? Or should I let her decide. She calls me a lot to talk, so I do not know what to say anymore? Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted September 5, 2005 Share Posted September 5, 2005 I say, once a cheater always a cheater. Also, it's rare that first loves end up together. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted September 5, 2005 Share Posted September 5, 2005 Hard to give a cheater another chance because there is a good chance they will do it again. As for people thinking the grass will be greener...yep people do it all the time and I would guess more often than not they realize it isn't but they have blown their chance so they settle for someone inferior. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 5, 2005 Share Posted September 5, 2005 Tough call, really. If he had stayed with her, he never would have been happy - he would have always been restless wondering if there was someone else out there for him. Cheating wasn't a bright idea, but after being with a few people, he knows for sure he wants to be with this original girl. The question is, does he want to be back with her enough to be sure that he won't get that wandering eye again? Its a gamble, really and no real way to see the outcome. I guess your friend has some tough choices to make. She will have to figure out if she doesn't want him back because he cheated, or doesn't want him back in general - cheating or not. If the only reason is 'cheating' there is a good chance that she is going to end up back with him - because even though cheating is really bad, it is something that couples can work through together and learn those necessary lessons to make a second chance work. Link to post Share on other sites
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