I didn't expect to get so jealous?

[I'veseenbetterlol]

I adore my bf, he always treats me well. These last couple days I have been feeling neglected. Him and his friend planned a couple days of gaming due to new content coming out. They both took time off to do their thing. Of course he was open to me coming over, but I didn't because I knew it would be frustrating for him. He hasn't been texting as often, which I understand, but I still have been having a hard time. I've been distracting myself w/friends and my own activities. I hate to admit it, I have been super moody and angry. How can I control this in the future? A part of me knows he needs to unwind, but also I have a hard time wrapping my head around someone gaming for such a long period of time (I'm not a gamer). I guess I'd rather just spend time socializing or being w/my partner.

[ExpatInItaly]

Apart from this weekend, how much time do you typically spend together, and what do you usually do as a couple?

 

As you said, you're not a gamer (and neither am I) so you can't really understand why he'd close himself up in a room and play for so long. You'd rather socialize - but that's just it. He isn't you and doesn't have all the same interests. It's also healthy to pursue your own hobbies sometimes and have activities you do separately. I agree with you that there's no point in going to his house, though. Watching someone play games for hours would be exceedingly boring for me, and I'd rather do my own thing.

 

It's just a couple days so I wouldn't sweat it. If you find yourself becoming angry and insecure about it, though, it is worth looking a little deeper to see if something else is bothering you about him or the relationship.

[Gaeta]

Did you already feel neglected before those game-days? It sounds almost like an accumulation of something maybe?

[stillafool]

What is wrong with a guy taking a couple of days with his friend to enjoy a new game they are both interested in. Why must this make you jealous and moody especially when you have friends to hang out with? I'm sorry but this type of attitude is a turn off.

[smackie9]

LOL ah yes World of Warcraft, Battle for Azeroth lol. I played the beta version already so I didn't bother to take the day off to play.

 

 

 

OP if you want to be closer to your BF, I think you should at least try it. I was never a gamer growing up. I started playing it over 10 years ago....and I haven't stopped since. It's like crack lol.

 

 

Gaming is very social because you are chatting and playing with others. You can have adventures with your BF...He would be thrilled if you could play along.

Edited August 15, 2018 by smackie9

[preraph]

Probably dropping by and seeing him and his buddy sitting there playing games in their dirty shorts, pretending to be the hero like an eight-year-old, and taking porn breaks would cure your jealousy real fast. Too bad you can't be a fly on the wall.

 

I mean, hopefully this won't go on long, but if it does, you'll have to decide if he's too myopic to keep as a boyfriend. But if it's a couple of days with a new game and then he's back to real life, let him be. You should be spending this precious time visiting friends and family and taking outings wherein you go do fun things he won't go do with you. Can you think of some things like that? Go do them by yourself or with friends. Go have fun. I'm sure he doesn't expect you to just sit and mope.