Have you ever been upset that your 2 friends who were dating ended up breaking up?

[SilverGoldRobot]

I have 2 bestfriends (who are a male and a female), and they started dating each other when they were both 18 years old. But they ended up breaking up with each other when they were both 21 years old. Now my 2 bestfriends are married to different people, and now the have children with those different people.

 

I was extremely upset about this, since I thought my 2 bestfriends made a very good couple together, and I was hoping they would get married to each other and have children together someday, but that never ended up happening at all.

 

Also my 2 bestfriends were so in love with each other when they were dating, and now they don't care at all about each other anymore. So this whole ordeal is just extremely depressing to me.

Edited August 19, 2018 by SilverGoldRobot

[d0nnivain]

In the immediate throws of a break up yes I have felt bad for heartbroken friends who had to endure the pain of a breakup.

 

Here your friends got over their heartaches & have moved on to happy fulfilling lives. Try to remember that they know better then you do about who is the best match for them. They have found their spouses. You need to stay out of it. It's odd that you are still thinking about this when they have clearly moved on.

[BaileyB]

I have two friends who started dating when we were 16 years old, they got married, had three children, and divorced just before their 20 year anniversary...

 

So yeah, it was very sad for me to see their marriage end, their family break-up, and to have our friendship be forever changed... Really, very sad.

 

But, here's the thing... It's their life. It was their marriage, it is their family, it was their decision. I will never forget what my friend told me when I expressed surprise that they were planning to divorce - "Remember, you just never know what is happening between two people behind closed doors."

 

I felt sad, and then I moved on... to focus on my own life and try to accept the new partners they have found. They have now both found a new partner, the kids are doing well, and everyone seems to be reasonably happy again.

 

It's sad, but it's life.

Edited August 19, 2018 by BaileyB

[Beachead]

I have 2 bestfriends (who are a male and a female), and they started dating each other when they were both 18 years old. But they ended up breaking up with each other when they were both 21 years old. Now my 2 bestfriends are married to different people, and now the have children with those different people.

 

I was extremely upset about this, since I thought my 2 bestfriends made a very good couple together, and I was hoping they would get married to each other and have children together someday, but that never ended up happening at all.

 

Also my 2 bestfriends were so in love with each other when they were dating, and now they don't care at all about each other anymore. So this whole ordeal is just extremely depressing to me.

 

Well I can understand how sometimes in situations like these, it does force you to be in an odd spot if both are your friends. You have to remain a neutral party and then make sure you don't put either of them in an awkward spot like inviting them to the same events. You may also have to keep their secrets safe if they are both confiding in you. So by that count, it can be a little taxing and sometimes might require you to put a little bit distance between them and you for your sake.

 

Other than that, you have no say in what they do. They're the ones who will ultimately be with their partners all day, everyday and so it's their call. Although you can be affected by their breakup, you are not at liberty to dictate their choices. As a friend, you must accept and respect their decision.

 

- Beach

Edited August 20, 2018 by Beachead