I dont want to chase him away but..

[HurtwoU]

I met this amazing guy Luke....he is the funniest guy I have ever met, he owns his own business, hes fun to be with, plus my parents love him....Everytime I talk to him I laugh and whenever im around him I cant be mad or sad. Now heres the problem....I always call him and I guess I bug him, and im guessing hes getting annoyed. I have problems with trust.....I dont want to lose him because im to controlling.....but thats the way I am....how could I stop it?

[Mary3]

I think you enjoy talking to him and he cheers you up. Does he call you back ? Do you call numerous times as opposed to his return calls ?

You may like him but does he like you ?

Ask him .

[Gold Pile]

(Assuming you're a legal adult)

(1) Have you been intimate yet, or is this mostly phone talk?

he might be getting tired of no sex.

 

(2) Work? What are his hours of work/sleep? If your calls are timed bad ....

[Outcast]

but thats the way I am....how could I stop it

?

 

It's not the way you are. It's the way you tell yourself you are. Just stop it. You are ruining your chances with him and you will ruin your chances with any guy if you keep this up. So you need to get that into your head and when your hand aims for the phone, tell yourself to stop because you are sabotaging yourself.

[Mary3]

You must instill the trust and stop the controlling behavior. How ? By reading all you can about how you got where you are today and to CHANGE it before you do lose someone who might be interested.

 

In EVERY Case that I had a bf who was insecure and did not trust me...well I ended those relationships. Dont be another victim of your own behavior.

 

Now get to work !