Counselling is completely useless

[maxi105]

hi there spring summer. just a real quick one as im on a computer that keeps crashing and shutting down on me. look at the positive, you've tried phone counselling already, ok so it wasn't good for you on that day, but you actually did something and tried! that's a start and it means you are or have tried to look at things a bit more for yourself.

 

 

face to face counselling is the best way I reckon as you can see peoples emotions and get to know more over a longer period of time. you cant always remember stuff on the phone and time runs on....

 

 

if you haven't already, keep with your issues and get help to find the right kind of people who are experienced in what you are going through or have been feeling.

 

 

what happy lemming and carhill are saying sounds pretty sound to me, so look at that route if you haven't taken steps already or things haven't improved on this one.

 

 

ok, good luck. and thanks for the reply. maxi but not all issues can be done with quickly, but its finding a trusted reliable and experienced and patient, kind person to talk is worth a lot. (even good friends with this quality) so don't give up on this if you are still struggling.

[Gaeta]

she refereed me to see a counselor in person though(it's free)...but I don't have much hope. In my experience, I have never experienced any counselling that's really helpful.

To get better you have to :

 

 

 

1. Want to get better

2. Believe you can get better

3. Put in the efforts to get better

 

 

One of my good friend has been in therapy for close to 20 years and it does nothing for her she says. She goes because she likes to talk about her problems but she doesn't want to put in any efforts to better her situation. She fails to understand that the counselor will not 'cure' her, she has to cure herself and do the work on herself between meetings and the counselor is there to guide her while SHE does the work.

 

 

 

A couple of days ago we were having a conversation and I told her 'you need to get out of your comfort zone and try new things'. She replies: yes that's what my therapist tells me...........but does she try once in a while to get outside her comfort zone? of course not, she thinks one morning she'll feel better just because she spoke to a therapist...and she's been talking for 20 years.