Cornelius72 Posted August 22, 2018 Share Posted August 22, 2018 My other half has a habit, she will ask a question and then physically walk away and not listen to the answer, she will ignore me when I’m talking to her, she will tell me constantly what’s on her iPad, and then complain when I interrupt to talk to her about something. When I point this out she becomes firstly defensive then belittling and insulting, she seems to be incapable of understanding when she is rude or insulting, she never apologises, she always says it’s something else I’m upset about, when I tell it isn’t, I’m talking about the situation here and now, she withdraws and won’t talk unless it’s to try and manipulate the situation so she comes out of it blameless. i.e. it’s someone else’s fault, or I’m being over sensitive. I’m beginning to feel like I’m in a relationship with a child who can not take responsibility for her own actions. Any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 22, 2018 Share Posted August 22, 2018 If you are married, you will have to find a way to deal with this. MC? Can you set up a small hidden camera in the kitchen & record her doing this then show it to her? That's pretty aggressive & may make her defensiveness worse. Try telling her that this behavior hurts your feelings but agree that she may not realize she's doing it. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted August 22, 2018 Share Posted August 22, 2018 My other half has a habit, she will ask a question and then physically walk away and not listen to the answer, she will ignore me when I’m talking to her, she will tell me constantly what’s on her iPad, and then complain when I interrupt to talk to her about something. Cornelius72, in a post like yours, I always try to imagine how the other spouse involved would describe the situation. Hers (by your own description) would probably be something like "whenever I try to tell him about my day or something interesting I've read, he interrupts me to talk about something else". In other words, in this case perception is reality. Were I you, I'd work at cleaning up my own communication skills first. In my marriage, this wouldn't be the hill I'd die on... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted August 22, 2018 Share Posted August 22, 2018 You both seem to have accumulated resentment in your relationship. Only the two of you know what those issues are. Try to work through them. She may very well think you're intellectually-challenged and you think she's got no manners. In the end you may not be compatible at all. Try to keep the judgments aside if you both can muster it and be open with each other (without throwing insults and watching your tone). You both might be surprised what you may be able to learn from each other. It's really up to the both of you. Link to post Share on other sites
BluesPower Posted August 22, 2018 Share Posted August 22, 2018 This is ADD behavior... IMHO. Do like someone suggested, put up a camera and show her what she is doing. However, if you guy always communicate this way, you have other bigger problems then her losing track of her conversations and concentration... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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