Kaotic Dizaster Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 Hi , thanks for reading this and all advice is so needed .... Here is the deal , I seen my first husband today and at first I was kinda worried how it was all gonna turn out because the reason we seen eachother is because we are both best friends to another couple , so I was a little nervous because this was my first husband , my first lover , my first real everything , (I had a boyfriend before that in Jr. High that was very special to me but in a different way ) But anyhow , so we all talked and played softball with the kids , it was fun . During the talking he started bringing up the past and all our good times , and there was alot of those and we had our bad times . The reason we were divorced is because we were both young , I was 16 and he was 18 when we got married . Then he joined the Navy and things just went down hill from there . We both agree our ages were young , but even after 13 years we still have feelings for eachother . We had in that time both been married again which didn't last , had children and have grown up alot since then . We ended up really going down memory lane we he let me drive his Mustang and I took him to the lake that we were married at . I just felt this need to go out there with him and it all turned out really well . He says he is gonna call so we can go out and see how things go , which I think is great . Here is my whole reason for advice , I have to girls , ones 11 and the other is 9 . My 9 year old is all for it , but my 11 year old is having issues with it , I haven't dated in a very long time and I think she is just not wanting to share me with anyone else . So what do I do ? Follow my heart or stay single and give up on this chance of a lifetime to be happy and be miserable forever to make her happy ? Please help because I may lose my mind on this one . Thanx bunches! Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted September 6, 2005 Share Posted September 6, 2005 You can't let your daughter rule your life. Don't introduce him into your kids' lives just yet - they don't need to get attached and lose him if it doesn't work out but you should be able to work out a schedule where you can see him without it taking too much time from your time with your kids. Explain to your daughter that it's hard to be alone but that he won't be welcome into your lives unless he is good to everyone in the family. It's possible your daughter still hoped you'd get back together with her father but you need to explain that that's just not going to happen. Link to post Share on other sites
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