Paid Sites and Interracial Dating

[Failureisanoption]

Hi! I'm trying to looking into something kind of odd I've run across recently and I'm curious if anybody else has experienced this. i have A FEW friends that have expressed that they stopped using paid sites because they couldn't date interracially. There were none selected for them and they couldn't find a way to include more diversity in their selections. When they complained they were offered more of the same service that didn't get them results in the first place! I'm curious if the selections will show any diversity at all! Has anybody had a similar experience? Did you complain? What was the result? Thanks! :D:D

[Gaeta]

When I was dating I used POF, okcupid, zoosk, badoo, match, and other local dating sites. When I did a search all of them offered the options to pick all ethnicity or a specific one.

[Failureisanoption]

Thank you so much for responding! Did you use eHarmony at all? Do you know of anybody who has? Again, thank you very much for your response.

[Purrrfect]

I’ve never heard of a site blocking interracial dating. I’ve used Match recently ( btw Match is terrible and not the site it used to be and full of fake profiles) and POF. Had the best luck on POF which is free. I am not into AAguys but plenty emailed me on both sites.

[coolheadal]

Thank you so much for responding! Did you use eHarmony at all? Do you know of anybody who has? Again, thank you very much for your response.

 

Pay site are just a cash cow? OKC is okay EH is not okay..

[Gaeta]

Thank you so much for responding! Did you use eHarmony at all? Do you know of anybody who has? Again, thank you very much for your response.

 

 

Tried it, hated it. I can filter men myself, I don't need a program to do it. Majority of profiles they sent me were people that were not login on anymore. It was a waste of money.

[Failureisanoption]

Pay site are just a cash cow? OKC is okay EH is not okay..

 

That's interesting. Could you elaborate on your experience at EH? Was the selection given to you diverse? What kind of experience did you have that wasn't okay? Thank you so much:D:D:D

[mortensorchid]

Thank you so much for responding! Did you use eHarmony at all? Do you know of anybody who has? Again, thank you very much for your response.

 

I believe all dating websites, free or paid, have the option of your choosing what races you wish to date / meet on the website. If not directly by checking / unchecking a box you can cherry pick of your own volition.

 

But with that being said, I would discourage you from using eHarmony in general. EHarmony is an expensive way to talk to some people and you will get very little results from it. How it works is this:

 

You sign up and pay your membership fee. You then will spend about an hour or two filling out an extensive questionnaire asking you deep, meaningful questions about who you are and what qualities you want the other person to have. I got through these questions quicker than most people, I think - I've spent a lot of time and energy thinking about these deep, meaningful questions when others may have not (How do you feel about religious beliefs? How important is it to you that the other person share the same religious beliefs as you? How do you feel about traditional gender roles? etc.) Once you get through that questionnaire, you ultimately put in your zip code and do a search within a certain radius of your home zip code. So then the system matches you with someone in your zip code radius, then there are three or four other sections of questions you can ask that person. Based on their answers, you (or the other party) may choose to close the conversation, or one day they just go poof and stop answering these questions.

 

In maybe 5-10% of these cases, you will have actual contact with that person outside of the website. I did it twice, met two people. The first lived in Michigan. I live in Northeast Ohio, I was not trying to meet someone outside of my city let alone in another state, this is just how the cards fell. We talked on the phone three or four times. He asked if I ever come to Michigan, I said yes once in a while I do. He said he never comes to Ohio. And that was that. He was an okay guy, I have no reason to think otherwise about him, but one day that was the end of it. The other time, unfortunately, turned out to be a bust when it should have been something good. I met this guy face to face who went to the college across the street from mine (he was two years younger than me, not that we met during that time) and he seemed stoked about getting to meet me as well because of that reason. ANd we had two text messages afterward (both instigated by me) giving him a holiday wish (Christmas, then the next week New Year's Day), he responded with thanks same to you. And I never heard a word again.

 

 

So don't do EHarmony. It's a waste of time.

[SevenCity]

Thank you so much for responding! Did you use eHarmony at all? Do you know of anybody who has? Again, thank you very much for your response.

 

When I used eHarmony (which was by far the worst site out of them all), one of the few filters was ethnicity.

 

It would limit your matches to those of the selected ethnicity. As a white guy having a preference for Asian women, it limited my matches significantly. Some days there were none.

 

So you can filter on eHarmony, but the site is terrible. Other sites (POF, Match) allow you to search for specific ethnicities but they don’t prevent people outside of those from reaching out to you.

 

Swipe apps like Bumble or Tinder only allow filtering based on distance.