alexl312 Posted August 24, 2018 Share Posted August 24, 2018 So all summer, I had this crush on a girl that worked at a place next door to me. So I gradually started to talk to her through July, and found out she lives 5 hours from me. She seemed really into me. When ever I would see her she would smile and say hi. I really wanted to ask her out, but I just couldn't get myself to do it. Well one day I finally did, and when I walked into the shop she works at to ask her, she wasn't there. Or the next day, or the next day. Her school had started and I will not be able to see her until next summer. I am just so angry at myself for waiting too long and missing my chance. Any suggestions for what I should do? I do have her Instagram, so I am considering admitting my feelings to her through DM, but I am worried that will not properly display how I feel. Any suggestions? I really like this girl and I do not want to have to wait 9 months to talk to her again. Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted August 24, 2018 Share Posted August 24, 2018 So all summer, I had this crush on a girl that worked at a place next door to me. So I gradually started to talk to her through July, and found out she lives 5 hours from me. She seemed really into me. When ever I would see her she would smile and say hi. I really wanted to ask her out, but I just couldn't get myself to do it. Well one day I finally did, and when I walked into the shop she works at to ask her, she wasn't there. Or the next day, or the next day. Her school had started and I will not be able to see her until next summer. I am just so angry at myself for waiting too long and missing my chance. Any suggestions for what I should do? I do have her Instagram, so I am considering admitting my feelings to her through DM, but I am worried that will not properly display how I feel. Any suggestions? I really like this girl and I do not want to have to wait 9 months to talk to her again. My suggestion. Let her go, chalk this one up to a lesson. Everyone has been where you are and regretted not taking that step. You could always befriend her on line and go from there and see if she is interested. Admitting feels via DM is in my view not wise. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 24, 2018 Share Posted August 24, 2018 Keep in touch through IG but do not declare your feelings. As next summer approaches see what her plans are. If she's coming back by you, then you can ask her on a date for her 2nd night back. Give her one to get settled in. For the rest of the school year just be flirty. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author alexl312 Posted August 24, 2018 Author Share Posted August 24, 2018 Keep in touch through IG but do not declare your feelings. As next summer approaches see what her plans are. If she's coming back by you, then you can ask her on a date for her 2nd night back. Give her one to get settled in. For the rest of the school year just be flirty. How should I start a conversation with her through IG? I feel so awkward just randomly DMing her. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 24, 2018 Share Posted August 24, 2018 Well, you don't have to do it privately. Just make your presence known and like stuff or whatever. Do not tell her anything. That's reserved for after you're dating someone. You don't tell someone you like them before you've even dated them. So you're just going to have to keep in touch a tiny bit, not a lot, through social media and probably she'll come home for some of the breaks. Then ask her out and don't tell her your feelings at all. Just take her out and get to know her. If you hear she's coming home for holiday or fall break or whatever, then DM her and say very casual "Would you have time to get together and go grab a sandwhich while you're home for Thanksgiving?" If she makes excuses, probably not, you have no interest. If she wants to go, she'll say yes and you can pin her down the week before about day and time. good luck 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 24, 2018 Share Posted August 24, 2018 How should I start a conversation with her through IG? I feel so awkward just randomly DMing her. Hey. Sorry I missed you. Never got to say good bye. How's school? Beach isn't the same without you. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 24, 2018 Share Posted August 24, 2018 Bear in mind that she may not be interested in a long distance relationship even if she does like you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AnnaHoll Posted September 2, 2018 Share Posted September 2, 2018 Most often, relations at a distance are doomed, if not to say all relationships are doomed to a distance. Link to post Share on other sites
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