Redhead14 Posted August 27, 2018 Share Posted August 27, 2018 Frankly, I don't think this is really about a birthday present. It's been 10 months and you're still looking for "little signs" about his level of interest. To me that says he's not expressing/communicating his seriousness with you enough to make you feel secure overall. Yeah, it'd be nice if he gave you a present and he did mention that intention. And, I don't like that he did that without following up either. But, be honest with yourself. Is this guy meeting your greater needs in a relationship? Do you feel like he is on the same page with you overall in terms of what he wants out of dating you? At 10 months, you can and should communicate your needs/disappointments without fear of rocking the boat. If this guy thinks you're being needy or immature for expressing yourself, then that's a bigger problem than whether or not he got you a present. Beyond all that, maybe he's just not into holidays, birthdays, etc. Gaeta, who posted here, has been with a man for quite some time, and she discovered that he just wasn't into all that stuff. Communicate. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted August 27, 2018 Share Posted August 27, 2018 I got an iron once.... I now have a rule that my gifts cannot have power cords attached unless they fall into the IT or audio categories. Hitachis aren't cordless yet, are they? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Kelliousme Posted August 27, 2018 Share Posted August 27, 2018 I remember around 20 years ago I gave my girlfriend a clock radio for her birthday (she needed it). She was sooo pissed off, she threw the clock radio at my head and luckily I ducked quickely enough. I thought it was a thoughtful gift but she did not. From then on I just got her flowers for every occasion to be safe and not get put in the dog house. This is funny lol. But curious, is your girlfriend Chinese? Anything related to giving clocks as a gift in the world of the Chinese is considered very offensive because it means to see someone off to the other world (meaning they're dying or they're dead) LOL. Anyways OP, talk to him about it if it really bothers you. Maybe it's just the way he was raised and taught. At least he said Happy Birthday and remembered, so I wouldn't say it's a red flag. But do make sure you let him know that you would like gifts for special occasions. Link to post Share on other sites
Purrrfect Posted August 27, 2018 Share Posted August 27, 2018 Wow. He is either very cheap or clueless. What made him think no gift is appropriate? Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted August 28, 2018 Share Posted August 28, 2018 I would just say "so, where is that birthday gift you mentioned?" Followed by "don't let the door hit you" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
brigit87 Posted August 28, 2018 Share Posted August 28, 2018 I would just say "so, where is that birthday gift you mentioned?" Followed by "don't let the door hit you" Oh yeah, definitively get the gift first 1 Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted August 28, 2018 Share Posted August 28, 2018 Hitachis aren't cordless yet, are they? Ahh, you beat me to it! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ChatroomHero Posted August 28, 2018 Share Posted August 28, 2018 As a guy who does not care to do much on my birthday or care if anyone gets me anything, I'd say that's pretty bad on his part. 7 or 8 months in, he should know you well enough that he could find things under $10 that you want/need and would appreciate. Link to post Share on other sites
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