Men, what's the best way for a woman to let you know she's interested?

[JuneL]

My male cousin told me this when I was younger and inexperienced, and he’s that sort of guys.

 

He probably wouldn’t reject me, but both of us wouldn’t prefer this sort of dynamics to start our dating. But I have absolutely no opinions if others prefer other sorts of dynamics.

 

Personally, I am not interested in a man who doesn’t have the courage to ask me out; likewise, my current and past bf’s all find my being a little shy endearing.

 

But I don’t believe that most guys are averse to being asked out on a first date by a woman; by the same token, some women find shy guys cute.

[Shining One]

That proves that you are easily interested in lots of women, and/or weren't really that committed to talking to the first one.

How committed should I be? We only exchanged eye contact and smiles.

Maybe had you followed through and talked to the first one, you'd still be with her today.

Or maybe she just wanted someone to buy her drinks for the rest of the evening. One never knows in these situations.

The more confident woman who got a job offer across country, really wasn't that committed to the idea of dating anyone.

This is assumption on your part. She had the choice to focus on a budding relationship or a dream job in her chosen career path. While it sucked at the time, I believe she made the right choice. Who knows what would have happened if the job offer had come at a later stage in our relationship.

Which means you're game to date whoever wants to date you.

Again, assumption on your part. I actually have rather strict relationship requirements.

[Shining One]

To be clear, my stance is this: If Person A is interested in Person B, Person A should make the first move on Person B. If Person B is interested in Person A, then Person B should make the first move on Person A. Gender is not a factor.

[nospam99]

Ladies, 10, 20, 30, or 40 years from now depending on your current age, you won't have to worry about men being 'turned off' by you making the first move. Those of us still alive will appreciate the 'direct approach'

[BluBell]

Truly I think it happens so rarely to men that you're totally caught off guard when a woman does hit on you. Most of you have no idea how to react.

[nospam99]

Truly I think it happens so rarely to men that you're totally caught off guard when a woman does hit on you. Most of you have no idea how to react.

 

My point was that, as a 60-something, I have no interest in the chase, only the 'catch'. The catch, being mutual, I don't care who makes the first move. I'm 'meeting' on OLD so I'm not caught off guard and know how to react. Sadly, I've only been 'receptive' to one of the women who made the first move. That particular relationship 'flamed brightly and burned out' and I would not have passed it up for the world.

[BluBell]

That's interesting too- do you think you're more selective of women who approach you versus the other way around?

 

It seems like when guys are "hunting" they go after everyone and everything and see who they catch, then determine if they want to keep her around.

 

When women are hunting, we pretty much set our sights on someone special and hope that he reciprocates interest. The one exception would be most young women's college years/early 20s in which all rules don't apply.

[nospam99]

That's interesting too- do you think you're more selective of women who approach you versus the other way around?

 

It seems like when guys are ''hunting'' they go after everyone and everything and see who they catch, then determine if they want to keep her around.

 

When women are hunting, we pretty much set our sights on someone special and hope that he reciprocates interest. The one exception would be most young women's college years/early 20s in which all rules don't apply.

 

If the bolded question is for me, no, I'm as selective of the women who approach me as I am of those I approach. Keep in mind that I'm a 64 y/o 'meeting' almost exclusively on OLD. All but one of the women who approached me have been 'physically undesirable' which may very well be the reason why they are doing the approaching. And, again as an 'older gentlemen' interested in an LTR, I know what I want and cast a selective rather than a wide net. Younger guys may cast wider in the manner you describe.

[thefooloftheyear]

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That's interesting too- do you think you're more selective of women who approach you versus the other way around?

 

It seems like when guys are "hunting" they go after everyone and everything and see who they catch, then determine if they want to keep her around.

 

When women are hunting, we pretty much set our sights on someone special and hope that he reciprocates interest. The one exception would be most young women's college years/early 20s in which all rules don't apply.

 

I'm probably a bad example as I am often completely aloof to subtle stuff..

 

Once I hit around mid 30's or so. most women that age and older just come after you....They don't care if you're married, single, looking/not looking, whatever....They tell you to your face that you look good/hot. Compliment your physique, etc...I'm talking relative strangers...Maybe it differs by locale, but that's what they do around here...Some will even resort to overt sexual innuendo...

 

SO I guess if you are in that arena and need to compete. then you will need to step it up and be more assertive...At the end of the day, though a lot of it still boils down to looks...The better looking women have little trouble...No matter what they do...

 

TFY