Author gia37 Posted September 1, 2018 Author Share Posted September 1, 2018 How does he indicate he respects you? Mr. Lucky What is respect? We see each other v often and he is caring to me and passionate and will come to visit me abroad soon. He contacts me every day. What else should i expect? That he shows his kids mother the door and marries me today??? They are not wealthy... to find an agreement with her will be difficult. I will relocate (return to my homeland) probably in a year or so... then we ll see. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted September 1, 2018 Share Posted September 1, 2018 (edited) What is respect? What else should i expect? This is just me, but I would expect that my partner would not lie to me about his marital status when he first shows his interest. I would expect a man who cares enough about me to make himself available to be with me (in more than just a call once a day, and let's have sex in my car way). And if he was not available, I would expect him to have enough respect for me NOT to entangle me in a relationship when he knows that he can not give me what I want. More obviously, I would expect a man who does not hide me away, have sex with me in his car and "in nature," and give me false hope for the future... That would be what respect means to me, in this case... Edited September 1, 2018 by BaileyB 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Springsummer Posted September 1, 2018 Share Posted September 1, 2018 This is just me, but I would expect that my partner would not lie to me about his marital status when he first shows his interest. I would expect a man who cares enough about me to make himself available to be with me - and if he was not available, to have enough respect for me NOT to entangle me in a relationship when he knows that he can not give me what I want. More obviously, a man who does not hide me away, have sex with me in his car and "in nature," and give me false hope for the future... That would be what respect means to me, in this case... and make time to see during day time, not just at night driving around...and no dinner? we don't really know what is going on, we can only judge by what op told us. and what she told us even made us bystanders furious. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted September 1, 2018 Share Posted September 1, 2018 This is just me, but I would expect that my partner would not lie to me about his marital status when he first shows his interest. I would expect a man who cares enough about me to make himself available to be with me (in more than just a call once a day, and let's have sex in my car way). And if he was not available, I would expect him to have enough respect for me NOT to entangle me in a relationship when he knows that he can not give me what I want. More obviously, I would expect a man who does not hide me away, have sex with me in his car and "in nature," and give me false hope for the future... That would be what respect means to me, in this case... Bingo. A man who shares his house with his wife but only the back seat of his car with you has made a pretty clear statement... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted September 1, 2018 Share Posted September 1, 2018 That he shows his kids mother the door and marries me today??? They are not wealthy... to find an agreement with her will be difficult. I will relocate (return to my homeland) probably in a year or so... then we ll see. Gia, I expect that you will come back with more reasons to attempt to justify comtinuing in this relationship... they are not wealthy, it is difficult to divorce, he stayed for the children... And I expect that you will come back with more dreams for the future... it will be better once I relocate, he has asked me to move in with him, and he's told me that we will be together... I offer you this final thought. This man lied to you on the day you met him. You have invested your time and energy in a relationship with a man who lied to you about something that is REALLY important on the very first day you met him... If you chose to believe him now, that is your choice. But, in a years time after you quit your job and relocated, when he is still living at home with his family and you are still having sex in his car... When you look back and wonder where you went wrong, start there. When people show you who they are, you would be wise to believe them. Link to post Share on other sites
Tristian Posted September 1, 2018 Share Posted September 1, 2018 Thanks to those who gave reasonable advice. Without knowing all the details these forums just become a general man-bashing. Yes, he lives with his ex, the mother of his kids, but they have no relations. And he is not a predator, but a good father and man in general. This thread is closed. Thanks again. Respecting the Ops wishes, thread closed Link to post Share on other sites
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