Is it better for woman to man hunt on their own?

[Dodgersfan11]

I always thought it was best for a single woman to go out with her girlfriend to man-hunt like go to events to try to meet guys. Now that I witness and seen some stuff happen the times that I've gone with another girlfriend, its a bad idea! First, there's always some jealously involved- or they butt in and want to find out the details of your conversations. Or worse yet, they will steal you away from you and she will flirt with him. From now on, I will man hunt on my own.

[BluBell]

The best wingman I've ever had was a single straight guy friend of mine. I'd help him meet new ladies, and he was always a good decoy if I needed to ditch a guy I wasn't interested in. The catfighting amongst women has always been something I don't engage in, therefore I always loose. In high school for example, one of my friends would always- every time- go after a guy I was interested in. And at the time I cared more about friends than guys, so I'd let them win.

[anduina]

Have you considered Bumble? Only women can approach on this app.

[Happy Lemming]

Great idea (going to the bar alone)!!

 

When I would look for women, it was easier to approach a single woman at a bar vs. peeling one away from a crowd. In time, I perfected my method of "peeling" a woman away from her friends.

 

Personally, I never worked with a wing man, I preferred to go it alone.

[carhill]

OP, I'll echo the advice to socialize with different female friends. Good, healthy friends are relationship supporters and want to see you coupled and happy if that is what you're seeking. I presume that's how you treat fellow women you call friends.

 

I remember doing the wingman thing for a few female friends, kinda fun, they'd give me the signal to make myself scarce and I'd go shoot some pool or watch the game or chit chat with other patrons. To me it was just social activity.

 

As far as approaching women, IDK, it varies. A guy who is a pro at cutting a woman out of the herd or away from another man is likely to be a pro at other stuff too, very experienced. That can be a double-edged sword. It all depends on the woman's social status and what she wants in a relationship. I've never been sufficiently enamored of a stranger to butt in on their social stuff in a group. One on one, still generally no instant sparks but more likely to engage. Does the lady want to date a man like that? Looking at the success/failure rate over many decades, not really. Gotta accept the real.

[Chilli]

Yeah , must be tough for women because the gf's really do get stuff goin on when one gets attention but they don't.

l'd say 3 would be better than two because she'll still have company but then guys don't like them in groups either usually because you just never know what sort of reception you'll get.

 

back in the day though , one girl friend would usually mess things up for her, got that a few times.

 

Strangely enough as a guy it was always better to have a friend.

But two girls , the one missing out can get pretty weird .

[stillafool]

Yeah, I've had guys tell me there's nothing worst than a herd of women entering a bar or club together (unless they all have model looks). Guys say even then it's difficult to approach the one you want with all the others around and makes rejection more embarrassing.

[preraph]

There's lots of guys afraid to approach a woman who has her friend with her and then blames the friend if she has said no. So if that's the kind of guy you want, by all means go it alone, but you're going to attract the ones too scared or without social skills who are afraid of dealing with a small group of women as friends casually. Me, I'd rather have one who has the normal social skills and isn't cowered by someone having a friend. For one thing, a guy who doesn't want their woman to have a friend is a red flag since isolating them is one of the first things that happens in abuse, so a guy who prefers women without friends has problems.

 

So if you go alone, and I have done it many times, I think the bulk of guys who come up will be that type. I think the less anxious fearless guys are going to wonder why you have no friends and maybe take a pass. But you know what? It's not an irreversible decision and may depend on your venue, so like maybe you'd get asked to dance more at a dance club, so try it and if it doesn't pan out, bring a friend next time. I think it's hard not to look awkward if you have no one to talk to, but I used to do it anyway.

[Dodgersfan11]

Out of all the times that I've been out to the clubs and where I went with either a friend or one time that I went with a group of people-a guy has always approached me-and this was where I was separated from either my friend or group, and I was always sitting or just standing alone people watching. And the guys that approached didn't really ask who I was with, I think it was easier for them to spot a girl who was by herself and not with a group of girlfriends to make their move. So, I either have to sit down or stand alone and will most likely get approached

[Happy Lemming]

So, I either have to sit down or stand alone and will most likely get approached

 

Your odds are better if you are sitting down or standing alone.

 

And don't be afraid to say something to a guy you find interesting. I had one woman ask me about the Guinness I was drinking. She thought dark beers tasted nasty, so I bought her a Guinness and we chatted, exchanged phone numbers and ended up going out. She later admitted she previously had Guinness but was looking for a way to talk to me.

[Woggle]

It is better for women to approach themselves whether alone or in a group.

[vanhalenfan]

I've always preferred to go it alone This is a woman talking. No wing women for me!

[thefooloftheyear]

Women do a great job of cock blocking their friends....

 

TFY

[snowboy91]

I always thought it was best for a single woman to go out with her girlfriend to man-hunt like go to events to try to meet guys. Now that I witness and seen some stuff happen the times that I've gone with another girlfriend, its a bad idea! First, there's always some jealously involved- or they butt in and want to find out the details of your conversations. Or worse yet, they will steal you away from you and she will flirt with him. From now on, I will man hunt on my own.

 

If you feel confident enough to do so, then go for it! I think there is definitely a safety element in having friends around if you're out and on the hunt though - firstly, you have people to talk to if you're not having any luck with anyone you talk to. Secondly, you have others to help you out if you ARE talking to someone and things get dicey. The issue there is that if you're got the wrong friends around they will get jealous and cock block you. The trick, therefore, is to have the right friends around.

 

If I was out and was with only one friend, I used to get jealous of them hooking up with someone since I'd be left on my own. These days I would just use it as an excuse to talk to new people myself. The eventual intention depends on my relationship status at the time (if single and willing, hook up, if in a relationship or not in the mood for it, make a new friend).

[basil67]

Women do a great job of cock blocking their friends....

 

TFY

 

We call it 'protecting a dear friend from making bad choices'