Do women, especially older ever approach men?

[mar96]

Do men in their 30s that make good money get approached by women or do they actually have to make the effort? What if they are very hideous looking? Men in your 30s here who make good money, what are your experiences?

[carhill]

When I was in my 30's and made 'good money', if high five figures back 25-30 years ago was good, no women approached. I remember when we'd do charity events, meaning we sponsored them for charitable organizations and donate, all that social stuff, meeting plenty of women, single the whole time, none approached. I was the guy running the BBQ or serving wine or handing out prize tickets. No one except the staff knew I was sponsoring the deal.

 

Tip: Be noticeable. I liked to blend into the background. Women appeared to be attracted to guys who were 'out there'. A guy driving a pickup looking like a worker isn't noticeable. I could tell when smiling and being friendly with all the guests.

 

Anyway, that was a long time ago. Perhaps things have changed. Women of my generation, in general, don't approach men for dating. In recent memory, since my D, I've been propositioned twice IIRC, and both women were married. That's about ten years worth.

[basil67]

I'm a woman. Much like Carhill just wrote, we don't know if a guy makes good money on face value. It's the kind of thing we find out as we get to know a person better....IF they let us in on their income.

[d0nnivain]

Do men in their 30s that make good money get approached by women or do they actually have to make the effort? What if they are very hideous looking? Men in your 30s here who make good money, what are your experiences?

 

When I was in my 30s I would approach a man I found attractive if he looked like he wanted to be approached. Somebody with cold closed off body language I left alone. I would absolutely talk to a smiling open person. It's nerve-wracking to make the 1st move; I learned that if you can be the one who is brave enough to just squeak out a "hi!" first that will often break the ice & make conversation possible.

[2.50 a gallon]

Definitely!

 

 

In my 30's I lived in a large singles apartment complex.

Some GF gave me a sign that read "Make me an offer I can't refuse"

I got several offers, including my future Ex-W. who 10 minutes after meeting me followed me back to my apartment, and after reading the sign took off offer top and asked me how about these.

In my 40's I met a gal who when I first met her, my fist thought was there is a face I could kiss good morning to the rest of my life. Alas she was living with another guy, so declined my offer to take her out. Two years later we finally exchanged phone numbers. I was shocked about 2 months later when I got home from work and there was a message from her asking me if I wanted to come over for dinner. That was just about 23 years ago and we have been together ever since.

[smackie9]

Just by smiling and have strong eye contact opens doors of opportunity for anyone that wants to be approached....this goes for both men and women. People love confidence.

[alphamale]

I've been getting hit on by women all my life

[mar96]

I've been getting hit on by women all my life

 

Did they meet your preferences or were they ones you don't prefer?

 

There has been women that gave me attention but they are always ones I am not really into .

[mar96]

Women definitely approach men but you have to give them a reason to want to approach you. I wouldn't suggest flashing a bunch of money around in order to achieve this. The type of ladies that will be attracted to advertised money won't be the type of ladies you want, and all the decent ones will likely stay away from you.

 

So unless I lower my standards, It would be better off for me to be alone forever? I was considering being with a gold digger because at least I wouldn't have to be alone all my life. Its a double edged sword really and I know that person is only with me for money, but I think I'd prefer that over someone in my own league. I don't mean to sound shallow.

[Mr. Lucky]

I was divorced in my 30's and in the nightclub business. There was a lot of workplace interaction, very little of it initiated by me, which today would definitely draw frowns in the HR department. And while I'm hopefully not "hideous" looking, no one's even mistaken me for Brad Pitt.

 

Draw your own conclusions...

 

Mr. Lucky

[MountainGirl111]

Let's turn the tables here a bit. I've been hit on by all kinds of men...some with excellent income and some not so much. Some older, some younger, some in between...It seems to me the amount of money they make is a minor issue compared to how you are together. Is it easy to talk. Does he listen. Is he interested in my feelings/emotions/struggles, etc, etc. Sure good money in an advantage....but when approaching someone there is more in play than money. Do you jive, do you click,...well, you know what I mean..............................

[basil67]

Let's turn the tables here a bit. I've been hit on by all kinds of men...some with excellent income and some not so much. Some older, some younger, some in between...It seems to me the amount of money they make is a minor issue compared to how you are together. Is it easy to talk. Does he listen. Is he interested in my feelings/emotions/struggles, etc, etc. Sure good money in an advantage....but when approaching someone there is more in play than money. Do you jive, do you click,...well, you know what I mean..............................

 

This ^^

 

My hubby is quite a high income earner. But I found this out after I'd fallen for him. I'd love him just as much if he was working a low income job.