LordVader Posted August 30, 2018 Share Posted August 30, 2018 I complain about about not having any experience, and girls not liking me. But most of it scares me a lot anyways. I have at least kissed a girl and liked it, but I'm prone to panic attacks. What if u start getting intimate and have a panic attack ? The thought of going to the bathroom at a girls house, or bad breath, or lying on a bed next to a near total stranger can be pretty scary. And what if they laugh at u, or tell all their friends, and they all laugh at u too. There's a lot of mean people in our society, I've dealt with them most my life. Then there's the whole permission side of stuff. What if u make a simple move the other person doesn't want, and freaks at you. I'd never force myself on a girl, and would stop when asked. I can't imagine how panicked and freaked out I'd get, I'd want leave immediately. And what about STDs, or she gets pregnant ??? Or her ex shows up and attacks you, or she's cheating and he shows up. I guess people with experience are often nervous too, but not like old beginners. IDK I really should try dating someone as inexperienced as me, but most people don't tell anyone. People say to get help, but what help ? I want a date, that's basically a therapist, that's not going to yell at me or mock me. I know I'm over thinking this, but thats what happens the older I get. Link to post Share on other sites
Cling Film Posted August 30, 2018 Share Posted August 30, 2018 You’re overthinking this to much and making yourself anxious. Fear is the jailer of your life. Put yourself out there and get experience. The more you get then you will grow in confidence and come to learn that the things you worry about tend to not happen or are rare and you can just brush them off and move on. Try not to let ‘feelings’ influence your life too much. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted August 30, 2018 Share Posted August 30, 2018 (edited) You're doing a lot of "what IFing". If you live by what IFs, you're missing what's now. Baby steps . . . Live in the moment a little more and don't project out so far into the future. Edited August 30, 2018 by Redhead14 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 30, 2018 Share Posted August 30, 2018 call an escort and tell her about your problems and then have sex with her 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted August 30, 2018 Share Posted August 30, 2018 Oh, Alpha, I think you're being facetious, but that would be bad advice for this man to take. A prostitute will "roll" him like a cigar and he will be left with his shorts, an empty wallet and an achy crotch. This is one "what if" I would caution him to pay attention to. Link to post Share on other sites
PRW Posted August 30, 2018 Share Posted August 30, 2018 call an escort and tell her about your problems and then have sex with her Oh, Alpha, I think you're being facetious, but that would be bad advice for this man to take. A prostitute will "roll" him like a cigar and he will be left with his shorts, an empty wallet and an achy crotch. This is one "what if" I would caution him to pay attention to. Well as bad as it sounds he is probably right. I look at the original message and no offense to the OP, I'm sorry, but the condition just seems so severe that I honestly can't come up with anything to suggest. It think this is far deeper than just "scared of girls" and a few posts in a web forum on the Internet is not going to fix it. I guess if I have any ideas later I will chime in... Link to post Share on other sites
Larry56 Posted August 30, 2018 Share Posted August 30, 2018 (edited) I complain about about not having any experience, and girls not liking me. But most of it scares me a lot anyways. <Snip> Why don't you just get a pro to come over, dry hump you while your drunk and blow you. Nothing can go too wrong from that. Just build up to it. Edited August 30, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
Author LordVader Posted September 1, 2018 Author Share Posted September 1, 2018 (edited) Sometimes I think if I just went slow, like average teens starting out, I'd get used to it. Watching porn makes me think I could just walk right into the screen and be a stud. I've considered an escort, but I really don't trust them. IDK I have to start talking to girls again, more my age too. A few years back when I tried bars, barely any girls at dance clubs would talk to me for more than a few minutes. Now I'm even older. Maybe some would understand if they knew my situation. I missed my chance with 99% of them now. And really I should chat with girls on dating sites. But not be so honest as to scare them off with my problems. Edited September 1, 2018 by LordVader Link to post Share on other sites
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