My male friend got drunk and said I love you seriously several times

[sparkles_80s]

I didn't know how to react and if he was serious or not. I also am too scared to bring it up or ask him I'm quite shy with feelings.

We are in our early 30s and single

[somanymistakes]

I didn't know how to react and if he was serious or not. I also am too scared to bring it up or ask him I'm quite shy with feelings.

We are in our early 30s and single

 

Are you of the gender he is normally attracted to?

 

Do you have feelings for him?

 

Drunk people sometimes express love for people they love platonically, sometimes confess secret romantic love, sometimes forget who they're talking to and express love for someone who isn't even there. It's impossible for us to know what he meant or how he feels, we weren't there and don't know him.

 

Do you want him to love you in a romantic way? Then you're going to need to talk to him.

 

Do you NOT want him to love you in a romantic way? Then leave it alone.

[sparkles_80s]

Yes, yes and yes to your questions. It's a toughy this

[preraph]

Good grief, it's not tough at all. He has a thing for you and finally spewed his guts out letting you know how much he likes you for more than a friend. And you like him back, so would it KILL you to say "I don't know if I love you, but I'm open to it"? Or if you can't talk (a skill you should learn forthwith), then go up to him next time you see him and put your arm around his waist and hug him up.

[Els]

Are you actually attracted to him? If you are, indicate this (when both of you are SOBER) and see what happens. If you aren't, ignore what happened and be sure to set up clear boundaries.

[MountainGirl111]

We all know drinking lowers peoples' inhibitions and people tend to say things drunk they are too afraid to say while sober. So, I think you have your answer there....Now: How do YOU feel about HIM?

[Whodatdog]

I know everyone always says when people are drunk they say the truth, but its not true. It does lower inhibitions but it also skews perception. I know of a lot of people who got drunk, ended up all lovey dovey with someone and told them how much they loved them. The next morning it was omg what did I do?

 

If they can't say it to you sober, then dont put any stock in it.

[d0nnivain]

If you like him back, ask him if he remembers any of what he said while drunk. Encourage him by saying that you may feel the same way. See what he does. hopefully you will end up kissing then dating.

[preraph]

He meant it enough. If he wasn't drunk he wouldn't have overstated it, but you don't go that gushy without meaning it. I mean, he said it, so assume he meant it.

[basil67]

I know everyone always says when people are drunk they say the truth, but its not true. It does lower inhibitions but it also skews perception. I know of a lot of people who got drunk, ended up all lovey dovey with someone and told them how much they loved them. The next morning it was omg what did I do?

 

If they can't say it to you sober, then dont put any stock in it.

 

Beer Goggles. It's happened to me too.

[basil67]

Sparkles, you need to take a risk. What's the worst that could happen if you do?

 

Invite him out for dinner or drinks. Somewhere cozy where you can sit close and see what chemistry happens. If the chemistry is there, then take that risk.

[anduina]

Invite him over for netflix and...see what comes of it.