Should I try to move on?

[simplybrill]

I met this guy a little more than a year ago and everything just clicked. We're so comfortable around each other, and everything just goes naturally. You know where in the first couple months of dating someone you would be nervous...we weren't. Its hard to explain, but its like over the time we were together, it just made sense.

 

Finding a way to let him go, when he had to go back to England after his stay here (an exchange student at my University), was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I went through a whole range of emotions. At first I was mad, because I didnt want to let him go, and eventually that melted and now Im just sad. It's been a year, and I've tried dating other people, but it's not the same. The fire isnt there, the connection just isnt there. I love him, and its so hard, because he's so far away.

 

We've been keeping in touch via email and calls when we can.

 

The thing is, I found out a few months after he left that he kissed an old roomate of mine, and that hurt a lot. The girl gets around a lot, and I dont understand what would make him kiss her, of all people! So I asked him about it, and he apologized, saying it didnt mean anything.

 

I wish it didnt mean anything to me either, except that this girl is in one of my classes this term, and I've got to see her face regularly, and it's like a constant reminder of what he did. He kissed her before he really knew me, but its the principle of the matter- that girl is gross. It was a sickening feeling to think that maybe I was just another girl to him.

 

I really miss him. I need an outside opinion here, am I being silly over a guy who's an ocean away-or should I believe him when he says that he still has strong feelings for me, and that he tried moving on as well but I'm still in his heart.

[kgal]

Hmm... why won't he come back and visit or you go there for a bit? Just imagine the girl he kissed is wearing a big hairy ape suit, that should help. (Just tryin to lighten up the sit. for ya).... I hope you feel better, cheer up! Don't let a man steal your joy, PLEASE!!! It is such a waste of time, lol.

[bluechocolate]

He kissed her before he really knew me, but its the principle of the matter- that girl is gross.

 

What principle? He kissed her before he really knew you, so you weren't going out with him. How was he to know how you feel about this girl?

Whatever, the kiss is irrelevant & you should try to forget about it.

 

...or should I believe him when he says that he still has strong feelings for me, and that he tried moving on as well but I'm still in his heart.

 

Why shoudn't you believe him?

[TnT]

I agree, i think the kiss is irrelevant. It was only a kiss. Maybe it was just in the heat of the moment. If he told u it didnt mean anything, i would believe him considering he kissed her and then was dating u. You should be glad he was with u and not the girl he kissed... lol, maybe she was a bad kisser... nah, just kidding.

In all seriousness, i think if the both of u have strong feelings for each other, y not try and be together??? I am on the other side of the world to my man (he is in America and i live in Australia). I cant imagine being with anyone else, and neither can he, so we continue to love each other and c each other when we can. One day, im hoping in feb, i will be moving there to be with him, but alot of things have to be sorted out in the process.

Hope this helped somewhat!

[simplybrill]

yeah, you're right- he kissed her before he met me, so it doesnt really matter now.

 

I want to believe him, I really do. I dunno, I've got trust issues I guess. Maybe if he answered my texts when I sent them, because it costs me so much to call him, I would feel better about things.

 

He says he loves me, which is fantastic. But the time inbetween when I dont hear from him is really tough sometimes.

[Jadey]

It was just a kiss, you werent together. I say forget it and try to trust him. I have a feeling he really do love you.

 

Good luck

 

Jade