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What should I call the girl your boyfriend dates before he settles down with you

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I need your help! Throughout my adult life dating, I have repeatedly been the girl guys date before settling down with someone else. From one night stands to a 3 year old relationship (although I lived with him, he was never fully settled down with me), guys seem to be ready to settle down with the next girl that walks into their lives. This has turned into a somewhat comical, movie-like failure after failure. I am writing a series of articles about my dating life for a lifestyle magazine, but seem to struggle to come up with a term to describe the non-girlfriend material, settle down maker that is myself. Calling all creative colleagues of Love Shack, what would you call me?

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I understand what you mean! The thing is, I am happy being single, enjoying dating and do view myself as a person any man would be lucky to settle down with, honest! I have everything in my life I need, a career, beautiful flat and amazing friends, and do not need the acceptance of a man to feel complete. This is just something I have observed about my life and am handling it through a series of rather comedic but educated articles. Might be hard to understand but I have it all almost figured out, just missing the term! I’ll link them for you once they go live ;)

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a poet a writer a songstress in the making.:0)..although this situation has been sung about....check it out

 

 

 

And the less you give, the more I want so foolish of me

But I will never be your stepping stone

Take it all or leave me alone

I will never be your stepping stone

I'm standing up or I'm on my own

 

you can be someones stepping stone.....or you can be you....and stand alone.....and only give love to someone who loves you and when that someone loves you how you should be loved...dont accept less.....

 

and stepping stones often do accept...much less.........choosing to ignore the signs that are always there....

 

i have been a stepping stone.....i speak from experience...but...what i am proud of....is the fact...when guys.... or better put...if guys step away from me or if i ask them to step away...they step away better for knowing me...

 

edit ha you are a writer(just read one your replies above)... one of the voices in my head must be psychic.....deb

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maybe guys don't see you as marriage material bluecherries

 

That's an interesting point Alpha... I dated a girl once that told me her kids (teen and younger) had never met her Mom, their Grandma and she only lived about 15 mins from her..

I stopped dating her when I found that out because I figured if I ever got married to her and had a kid I would want them to know their Grandma.

It's seems superficial and maybe it was but it seemed so important for me since I am so family oriented that I called in a deal breaker on it and considered her not marriage material.

 

As far as the OP, maybe Alpha is on to something and your term of definition would be Not Marriage Material...

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Wow you guys have gone in on me trying to analyse my situation without much detail... I am very much the type a guy would be lucky to be committed to , although at the moment I am concentrated on pursuing my career and not particularly looking for marriage as clearly the right person has not come along.Marriage does not define a relationship, and a successful relationship is not measured by marriage.

 

For all the people who answered my original question, thank you! I have received some truly great ideas, I particularly like the practise girl.

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I had a buddy once refer to a preseason GF, along the lines of the NFL. Sort of implied she's the one you practice with before the real thing begins...

 

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I think Preseason GF is pretty catchy (from Mr Lucky above). Or how about Layover Girl? Like a guy is on a flight to somewhere but does the layover before he reaches his final destination.

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I think Preseason GF is pretty catchy (from Mr Lucky above). Or how about Layover Girl? Like a guy is on a flight to somewhere but does the layover before he reaches his final destination.

 

 

Yes these two are starting to grow on me! I think I might even go with layover girl.

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Yes these two are starting to grow on me! I think I might even go with layover girl.

 

Layover Girl has a salacious ring to it, no? ?

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Just a quick heads up for folks to read the question being asked before writing their reply.

 

The OP is looking for a term that that describes her situation, not a solution for it.

 

I have edited the title to reflect that.

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What should I call the girl your boyfriend dates before he settles down with you?

 

The one that got away and the one he may regret not hanging on to . . . :)

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Surrogate wife.

Premarital counselor.

Pre-bound girl (i.e., not the rebound).

Practice wife.

Prep girl.

Husband trainer.

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