Am I just overthinking or she really isn't into me anymore?

[overthinking25]

I have been with my girlfriend for five years and with all those years, she never failed in loving me and showing how much she does. However, just recently, things have changed. She used to be so sweet. She never misses a day to message me before, but now she barely even texts me. She used to call me all the time asking if I have already eaten and whatnots, yet now she does not seem to want to talk to me anymore. I can’t help but think that she’s not into me anymore. I don’t know if this is true or if I am just overthinking?

[snowboy91]

In long term relationships it is easy to get comfortable. Communication in the form of texting/calling can fall by the wayside since one partner assumes the other is OK and all is well. This isn't necessarily a good thing though. Lack of communication can create distance in a relationship, which causes interest to fade. Or the lack of communication could be the result of lack of interest. It's a cycle that is far too common.

 

Do you message or call her every day or does she always initiate? If one person is always starting the conversation each day, they are going to feel drained over time. If you haven't yet, I strongly suggest bringing this up with her - if you sit on this for too long, interest will continue fading until there's nowhere left for this to go.

[overthinking25]

In long term relationships it is easy to get comfortable. Communication in the form of texting/calling can fall by the wayside since one partner assumes the other is OK and all is well. This isn't necessarily a good thing though. Lack of communication can create distance in a relationship, which causes interest to fade. Or the lack of communication could be the result of lack of interest. It's a cycle that is far too common.

 

Do you message or call her every day or does she always initiate? If one person is always starting the conversation each day, they are going to feel drained over time. If you haven't yet, I strongly suggest bringing this up with her - if you sit on this for too long, interest will continue fading until there's nowhere left for this to go.

 

I do update her with my whereabouts and call her. She doesn't call me that much but I do. I don't know what's happening with her. Before, she used to text and call me all the time. Maybe I should consider talking to her with regards to this. Thank you!

[Redhead14]

I do update her with my whereabouts and call her. She doesn't call me that much but I do. I don't know what's happening with her. Before, she used to text and call me all the time. Maybe I should consider talking to her with regards to this. Thank you!

 

 

Communicate!!! Tell her how you've been feeling. It's not a confrontation but a calm, emotionally intimate conversation. Ask her if there is something lacking in the relationship for her and that you want to work together to get things back on track.

[alphamale]

she's getting ready to break up with you

[Guildford]

Five years and no engagement; I think she has given up on you. How old are both of you and have either of you been in a prior marriage that did not end well?

[Imajerk17]

If this change happened suddenly and recently, then [going by what you have written] there is quite the possibility that she is in an affair/has someone else already lined up.

[LuckyM]

Think carefully about how the conversation went or what was said, what you said or texted the last time. That's what I do. What was your tone of voice? Did you put her off at all. Maybe you said something she did not want to hear.

You may be thinking too much, I don't know, or this could be a sign of something lurking. It is too soon to say.

[sinbad2011]

Did you move the interaction forward? Or were you leaving it all on her? Did you have sex with her? DId you take the relationship forward?

 

If not, she probably got another guy who does that.

 

As men, we are responsible for moving things forward.

[Gaeta]

I think she might be bored.

 

 

Do something new.

 

 

 

Go on a trip together or save money to go on a trip together.

 

 

 

To keep a relationship excited, among other things, you need to have short-term plans and long-term plans that you both work *together* toward.