imconfused33 Posted September 5, 2018 Share Posted September 5, 2018 My then fiance and I broke up because we realised we wanted different things. She didn’t want kids while I wanted to start a family already. About six months later a close friend and I developed feelings for each other. It all started when she asked me to babysit her child for a few days when she had to chaperone in some multiple city singles tours. It wasn’t like how it was on movies. It wasn’t very romantic or anything but rather it was like something that slowly fell into place. Sadly, just when I was about to ask her to make it official between us, she had to move away. She had a job offer in Seattle and didn’t want to commit in a long distance relationship. By some sick twist, my ex fiance came back to the city after backpacking in Europe when we broke up. At first we were just catching up then we realised we still strongly feel something for each other. We agreed to try it out again but won’t rush it. Now, I’m kind of confused of what I feel. I think I still feel something for my close friend at the same time I know I still love my ex fiance. I need some serious advice for this. Link to post Share on other sites
snowboy91 Posted September 6, 2018 Share Posted September 6, 2018 Your close friend moved away and doesn't want to pursue a relationship at the moment. You can rule that one out. To decide about your ex, think about it carefully. What things were different between you that made you want to break up? The same issues that caused the breakup will surface again if your decide to get back together. You said want to settle down soon while she's not ready to do so yet. I don't think a backpacking trip to Europe is going to change her perception all that much (if anything it will make the wanderlust worse), so I'd caution against getting back with her as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted September 6, 2018 Share Posted September 6, 2018 Now, I’m kind of confused of what I feel. I think I still feel something for my close friend at the same time I know I still love my ex fiance. I need some serious advice for this. Well, certainly wouldn't make availability the deciding factor in any decision. Have you thought about the fact that the answer may be "neither"? Both declined the opportunity to commit when offered, might be time to simply move on... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
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