30s and still in college

[bradt93]

I'm exactly 30 years old and finishing my undergrad degree. I started late due to personal issues, but anyways how am I supposed to meet someone at college when they are in their teens and 20s, or am I not?

[d0nnivain]

Find other students your age.

 

There is usually some kind of campus group for returning adult learners. Many of them do tend to be night students.

[preraph]

^ Yup. Take some night classes. That's where people with jobs end up.

[alphamale]

try to date your professors

[Happy Lemming]

Keep in mind that many night students are adults that work full time jobs during the day.

 

They got up at 5:30-6:00am, fought traffic to get to work, worked all day taking crap from co-workers and bosses, fought traffic to get to the college, ate dinner out of a vending machine and are sitting in a night class trying to get a degree so they can get out of their crappy job. Most are very tired and just want to get through class so they can finally get home, get some sleep, to go to work tomorrow. These individuals may not want to chit-chat after class or even during break.

 

And yes... I did the night student thing for many years in my youth, I speak from experience.

[alphamale]

Keep in mind that many night students are adults that work full time jobs during the day.

 

They got up at 5:30-6:00am, fought traffic to get to work, worked all day taking crap from co-workers and bosses, fought traffic to get to the college, ate dinner out of a vending machine and are sitting in a night class trying to get a degree so they can get out of their crappy job. Most are very tired and just want to get through class so they can finally get home, get some sleep, to go to work tomorrow. These individuals may not want to chit-chat after class or even during break.

 

And yes... I did the night student thing for many years in my youth, I speak from experience.

 

I agree HL

[Garcon1986]

Sort out if anybody in your classes is showing interest in you. If not, I wouldn't approach them with an intent to date. Women even in their 20s see through bad attempts at dating and spread the word around, so that you will be labeled as a creep by the entire crowd. You don't want that.

 

At the same time, sort out what you bring to the table.

 

If there's nobody in your classes, take extracurricular activities that you are interested in and can also be genuine. In that way, talking to women will be natural.

 

 

The good thing about dating younger is the younger women are more likely to be single.

 

 

Women almost universally have had experiences that guys who approach them only want sex. Practice endlessly until you have little fear approaching women. Women don't want to be "sold" on dating anyone. You need to allow a woman to feel comfortable seeing you more than once and - there must be mutual interest. If there isn't, cut your losses and move on to the next. That's the least painful way to get rejected. Women don't necessarily enjoy rejecting guys as a badge of honor, but if guys continually make them uncomfortable then they have no choice. Start by asking them what they like and figure out what experiences are really meaningful to them.

[Garcon1986]

The more social events you go to the faster you will get to your favorite lady.

[normal person]

The good thing about dating younger is the younger women are more likely to be single.

 

Delineating between single or not single shouldn't be an issue. The advantage older men usually have with younger women is that younger women can be very attracted to a man's success, prestige, career, maturity, etc. Women don't like older guys just because "they're older," they like them because they usually provide a lifestyle upgrade. The problem for OP is that he doesn't have most of things because he's in the same spot in life as all of them, but a decade them. They can get a guy their own age with his best years still ahead of him, or an older guy with an established career already -- there's little advantage for college girls to date college students OP's age.

 

OP, if I were you, I'd stick to the older students for now, and then hit the ground running with the resumes the day I graduated. The sooner you get a job, the sooner you can catapult past this stage in your life that is unlikely to yield you much success. Best of luck.