Louisesarah Posted September 12, 2018 Posted September 12, 2018 You might or might not remember me..probably not as it’s been 3 years. I had a “affair” so to speak with my best friends brother,I loved him and he said he loved me but wasn’t prepared to leave his young baby etc. Him and his sister argued because he kept talking about me when drunk and she was worried it would all come out in the open. Anyway my best friend cut me out of her life over 2 years ago. Anyway 4 months ago she messaged me and since then we’ve been texting every week or so just like the old days. She hasn’t rang me or asked to meet up etc so it looks like she’s happy with just texting. She hasn’t added me on Facebook either. Why do you think she doesn’t want to go back to how we were? If she’s been texting me she must have missed me? One of my other friends have said maybe she doesn’t want her brother to know we are speaking or worried that it might stir up previous history. What do you think? I was speaking to her outside and she kept looking around as if she was nervous of someone seeing us.
SouthernIslander Posted September 12, 2018 Posted September 12, 2018 Might be trust issues since she was put in a bad position but it could be because of her sister in law. If wife doesn’t know, it’s risking exposing the affair and if she does know then that would cause bad blood too. What did she say when she cut you off?
preraph Posted September 13, 2018 Posted September 13, 2018 Easy. She doesn't want you around her brother or to have access through her to her brother.
stillafool Posted September 13, 2018 Posted September 13, 2018 Exactly! She may have missed you as a friend but she doesn't want to bring drama back into her brother and his wife's life.
Standard-Fare Posted September 13, 2018 Posted September 13, 2018 I was speaking to her outside and she kept looking around as if she was nervous of someone seeing us. This part above, sounds like you and her had met up in person? Was this recent? (After she reinitiated the contact through texts?) Without knowing details beyond what you've told here, I would advise being very delicate with this friendship and not pushing or expecting anything. Respect that you put her in a very complicated position in the past and she may still (and always, forever) feel burned by that. It's a positive sign that she's reaching out to you, but this spurt of texts may well be the end of it. If the friendship rebuilds further, that will have to be on her terms.
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