shydad Posted September 12, 2018 Share Posted September 12, 2018 Hi all, I'm just curious about what people think about a series of events. 1) Last night I was trying to sleep and for no apparent reason, my online fantasy woman popped in my head. She's the one who describes herself as a hippie, and has a picture with feathers and ribbon in her hair, and paint on her face. If I had the chance to meet anyone from online, she would be #1. It's been a couple months at least since I botched it with her, but the thought in my head was to tell her that her feathers picture was the best I'd seen on Match out of thousands of photos. So I got out of bed and sent a very brief message telling her. 2) My match options on Bumble completely dried up. I wrote up a BFF bio and planned to switch from dating to BFF mode this afternoon, even got excited about it. 3) I open Bumble and BOOM, there is my fantasy woman from Match... So of course I click on the super like button, because if I don't super like my fantasy woman, what's the point of the super like feature? I guess I should put the BFF idea on the back burner now and wait this out. I'm curious what people think about this. Random coincidence? Guiding force? Lol...destiny? I've learned that second chances don't happen in online dating, but if ever there was, this seems to be it. I probably shouldn't make too much of this, but things do tend to fall into my lap... Link to post Share on other sites
SevenCity Posted September 13, 2018 Share Posted September 13, 2018 I know it’s difficult, but don’t get excited due to matches online. When I first started OLD, I would get excited when I matched and often it would lead to disappointment. Either she stopped responding, lost interest, the date was bad, or turned out to be a nut after dating and having sex for a while. You will be in for disappointment after disappointment if you get this worked up over a match on OLD. Moreover, your excitement can often push women away (you saw the thread about guys talking about kids on the first date). When you take a balanced approach you’ll have a lot more success. Link to post Share on other sites
Malin889 Posted October 5, 2018 Share Posted October 5, 2018 Did anything ever happen with your Match? Link to post Share on other sites
Author shydad Posted October 5, 2018 Author Share Posted October 5, 2018 Did anything ever happen with your Match? Hi Malin889, thank you for asking. No, nothing happened, which is what should be expected, of course. I did not receive a reply from her on Match, or on Bumble. I think that generally, in online dating, there is a very low threshold for mistakes. This may be for the best, though. I need someone who can handle a person who makes mistakes, as I make many. However, I did mention that things seem to fall into my lap, and as it turns out, also on the very same day this happened, a few hours later I received a message from a cute and kind looking teacher on Bumble. She's really cool and seems normal. She seems interested in me and I see potential here. We've texted almost every day for 24 days, had several long phone calls, met twice, and have a date set to meet again. She's the third woman I've met through online dating. With the second woman, we wrote and texted for 17 days and met once (no calls, though she hinted about it). With the first woman we messaged and texted for 7 days and met once (no calls). So in the quantifiable elements, things are going in the right direction. Link to post Share on other sites
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