This girl maybe likes me, but there's a big social problem

[LordVader]

This girl almost seems to be interested in me, but we never talked. I had plenty of crushes on girls I didn't know at all past a few sentences over months of being in the same school. So I know all about the heart break of that side of it.

 

 

So I'm worried enough about dating anyways. But with her, I don't want to get involved with or her wide network of friends. We don't work at the same job site, but it's about the same as that.

 

 

Now if I had a crush on her, I'd be on here wondering how to talk to her.

 

 

So this conflict and contradiction is getting to me.

 

 

If I keep thinking about her, I'll probably start liking her, she's pretty enough.

[d0nnivain]

A girl at school likes you but you see this as a bad thing? Your worried if you start talking to her you will like her back?

 

You are concerned that because you go to school together you will have to interact if things don't work out & you break up.

 

Ugh.

 

You are defeating yourself before you even get started.

 

Unless you go to a really small school after a break up you can avoid each other. It's really not that hard to do & you only have a finite time in school anyway.

 

Stop only looking at the bad parts.

 

For now, smile at the girl & talk to her. You may be reading it all wrong & she doesn't like you anyway.

[preraph]

If she's never talked to you, then she's at best curious about you, so don't get carried away, but of course you should just be friendly and talk to her and not make any presumptions.

[basil67]

If I remember correctly, you're mid 30's. How old is this "girl"?

 

Also, if you've never spoken, what makes you think she's interested?

[LordVader]

If I remember correctly, you're mid 30's. How old is this "girl"?

 

Also, if you've never spoken, what makes you think she's interested?

Yes I'm old and no girls have liked me for decades. And there's lot's of females I have not liked, mainly due to looks.

 

 

This whole situation really is crazy. Normally I get crushes on beautiful girls I don't talk to.

 

 

This time I almost think this girl likes me. And I think she's hot. But if I started talking to her, I'd have to meet all her friends basically. And for me thats bad. I don't want to do that.

 

She would probably not like me that much, due to lack of common interests.

 

 

 

The last batman movies were bad. 1 time I think I saw her at the store, and some other guys were laughing at her. I should have bet the crap out of them. Like a superhero.

Edited September 15, 2018 by LordVader

[LordVader]

I would like to have casual sexual encounters with her a lot for fun. We would find it fun so it would be fun

[d0nnivain]

LordVader

 

Why don't you want to meet her friends? Being introduced to new people is not that bad. Sure it may be out of your comfort zone. That doesn't mean you have to be the new life of the party. You simply have to say hello & not be rude.

 

If you want a relationship -- to be loved & to love back -- that is more about a simple pump & dump. It takes effort. It takes interaction.

 

If all you want is FWB that can happen but you still have to interact with the other person.

[BaileyB]

I would like to have casual sexual encounters with her a lot for fun. We would find it fun so it would be fun

 

Don't ask her this question without building a friendship with her. You must talk to her, get to know her, and become friends with her if you want this to happen...

 

And know, it is very unlikely that she would ever agree. It's probably more likely that she is looking for someone to date - or, that she has a boyfriend already.