youngconfusedme Posted September 7, 2005 Share Posted September 7, 2005 Who does the laundry, does this cause fights for anyone else? or is it just my marriage? Also, does anyone else have a problem w/ a H who sees all you do wrong but never what you do right, and seems to be able to throw the bad in your face all the time but never remembers anything you do good. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 7, 2005 Share Posted September 7, 2005 When I was married she did hers and I did mine .. and both of us did the kids clothes. Most of the time it was her doing the kids clothes though. There was this one girl I lived with many many years ago that wanted me to start doing her laundry and I wasn't hearing it .. So I took my bright red coke sweatshirt and washed it with her best white sweater..By accident of course:laugh: Needless to say I never had to worry about doing her laundry anymore or mine as then she started doing my laundry ..There is a lesson here but it is for the guys Link to post Share on other sites
RainyDayWoman Posted September 7, 2005 Share Posted September 7, 2005 i do my laundry and my boyfriend's laundry. i don't mind. i think the only issue i had was when he left some tissues in his pocket and i ended up picking up little, hard, white, tissue-balls off the floor and the clothes for days. now he never forgets. i like doing the laundry, it practically does it itself anyway. so long as he remembers to empty his pockets... however, it sounds like your issues extend beyond laundry...... Link to post Share on other sites
sundrop Posted September 7, 2005 Share Posted September 7, 2005 When I was with my exhusband, as long as it was in the laundry room, I would do it, I didn't mind, but I was not ironing. But if the clothes were in a pile on the floor, it was staying there. I am not a maid. I my last relationship we both did laundry, I did clothes and he did the other things such as bed linens and towels. Worked pretty well. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted September 7, 2005 Share Posted September 7, 2005 I do all the laundry. I don't mind doing it. I am having some difficulty right now with sharing some other chores with my husband. Talk to him face-to-face and ask him to name three good or positive things about you and what you do. If he can't do it right away then get some therapy -- or a lawyer. Does he know how much he is hurting you? Link to post Share on other sites
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted September 7, 2005 Share Posted September 7, 2005 Also, does anyone else have a problem w/ a H who sees all you do wrong but never what you do right, and seems to be able to throw the bad in your face all the time but never remembers anything you do good. You just described my relationship with my ex. Nothing I did was right. Even the way I tied my shoes. Now I'm in a relationship thats the exact opposite. I can blow my nose in his shirt and he'd think it was cute. He might have some sort of resentment towards you. Or else EVERYTHING you do wouldn't be wrong. Get out now before its too late. I learned my lesson and actually foind a realtinship worth living for. Link to post Share on other sites
Author youngconfusedme Posted September 7, 2005 Author Share Posted September 7, 2005 I did clothes and he did the other things such as bed linens and towels. Worked pretty well. I am going to suggest this I like that idea Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted September 7, 2005 Share Posted September 7, 2005 We both do the laundry and he's better at it than I am. Lack of respect is what's going on with your husband and his critical attitude. That needs to stop. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 7, 2005 Share Posted September 7, 2005 We both do laundry, it's so not an issue in this house. If towels, sheets etc need to be done and he notices it before I do, he'll do that too. I'm home more during the day so I usually just tell him put out what you want done and when he's doing some in the evening he'll ask me. Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted September 7, 2005 Share Posted September 7, 2005 There is a lesson here but it is for the guys lesson taken maybe i am outta the norm here but all my ex's always wanted to do my laundry........and i always fought them on it Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted September 8, 2005 Share Posted September 8, 2005 Whoever saw the need was the plan, but in practice... I do the laundry. We have 4 separate baskets to divide the colors as we take them off, so I don't have to sort the laundry, which was one of the parts that drove me nuts. Plus it's easier on me cause I know when I have a full load of a color before it gets out of hand. So as long as he keeps pre-separating, I don't mind. Link to post Share on other sites
cranium Posted September 8, 2005 Share Posted September 8, 2005 We both do the laundry and share most other household chores equally. I do all the ironing. As a matter of fact, I was probably home ironing while she was out visiting her OM. Link to post Share on other sites
Chimerical Posted September 8, 2005 Share Posted September 8, 2005 You just described my relationship with my ex. Nothing I did was right. Even the way I tied my shoes. Now I'm in a relationship thats the exact opposite. I can blow my nose in his shirt and he'd think it was cute. He might have some sort of resentment towards you. Or else EVERYTHING you do wouldn't be wrong. Get out now before its too late. I learned my lesson and actually foind a realtinship worth living for. How long have you been with the "new" guy? I'm curious if it's just the honeymoon phase, or if you've been with him for years and years. (I don't know if this is coming off sounding rude or anything, but I don't mean for it too. I'm really hoping you'll say you've been together several years and are still madly in love with each other.) Link to post Share on other sites
Horse Posted September 8, 2005 Share Posted September 8, 2005 My wife usually does the laundry. She is very particular about how everything should be folded (everything in thirds with all of the edges lined up) and she used to have some sort of color code with clothes hangers that I could never figure out. Now all of the hangers match, but there is still some sort of organizational structure in there. Every time I get it wrong (every time I do the laundry) I hear about it. The latest was lining up the folded edges of the towels together, so there won't be folded and unfolded edges together On the other hand. There is no wrong way to fold or put my clothes away. I'm just glad that they are clean. So it is a lot less stressful for both of us to have her do it. When I do do the laundry, I usually leave the clothes in the laundry room. It's easier to refold the towels and she doesn't have to reorganize her closet. Link to post Share on other sites
JayKay Posted September 14, 2005 Share Posted September 14, 2005 We do our own laundry, seperately. There were too many 'dry clean only' garments going into the washer! Also, I generate lots of dirty clothes per week and my partner tends to recycle more. So it's more fair that we each do our own. Link to post Share on other sites
Coffeemaniac Posted September 15, 2005 Share Posted September 15, 2005 Mostly I do the laundry - and fold it, but I like for someone else to put it away. I have four children, 2 teenagers and 2 little ones. The teenagers put away their own and I will usually ask them to put away the babies' clothes too (which I usually find all in the wrong places). Sometimes I put hubby's away for him. Sometimes he does it, which means it gets into our room, but not into the drawers... It seems so messy that I get frustrated sometimes, but when I do I try to ask myself what will my kids remember most about their childhood? A really clean house, or a mother that played with them and helped them with their homework and showed up for their softball games?... Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted September 15, 2005 Share Posted September 15, 2005 I do my laundry and My BF's laundry.. I don't mind doing his laundry so it works out AND I usually start the laundry at night... so it's naked laundry night the wash machine is a great place to have sex:love: No wonder I don't mind laundry now that I think about it.... Link to post Share on other sites
MAINMAN1 Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 do you two both work? I mean if he works out of the home all day why shouldnt you do the laundry - if he pays your rent/bills you should do his laundry, no? Am I archaeic in thinking that one partner should work in the home (regardless of gender) while the other works outside the home so that at the end of the day they can spend time together and with the kids? Link to post Share on other sites
Author youngconfusedme Posted September 21, 2005 Author Share Posted September 21, 2005 We both work outside the home, I work about a 50 hour week and he works a 37.5 work week. Link to post Share on other sites
hyjacked Posted September 29, 2005 Share Posted September 29, 2005 Ahh..Ever stop and wonder if all the laundry was finished up? I don't. A motto I coined for my pretty wife is "If she is awake, there is laundry" There are 3 of us males and one little ole her and she will ALWAYS have the most to do. We both do it. Im not allowed to put her clothes away though...something about her never locating stuff again. I don't get it Link to post Share on other sites
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