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What does it mean if a guy gives you a very sweet pet name for the first time - but in public, so all your mutual friends know? Not complaining... I really loved it! We've sort of had an unspoken understanding that we're both looking for a relationship and were seeing where it goes with us. I've never heard him call anyone by anything else other than their name... until he used this term of endearment on me... in public. Just wondering what the meaning could be behind him making it public like that... Do you think it's his way of letting everyone (including me) know we're together now?

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Could be ... but ... you want to have a conversation and confirm his meaning.

 

Lots of folks are good at doing acts like this ... specifically designed to convince the other person that we are dating ... while technically not agreeing to an exclusive commitment.

 

So next time you see him, ask him about that ... I assume you want to be officially dating and officially exclusive ... so you want to hear something more specific before you assume you have an exclusive commitment.

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It seems like a term of affection. I would not assume there is more to it than that at this stage.

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Is there a reason you can't ask him? Are you intimidated by him? Just say "That's so sweet you call me that, I really like it. Just so I understand, are we boyfriend and girlfriend?".

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I'm really curious...what is the pet name he gave you? It seems like a really good sign to me. You mention, "were seeing where it goes with us", which to me sounds like you're a couple, and thus he would consider you to be his girlfriend. This is a really good question, though.

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either way it's a good sign

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Thank you for all the helpful answers! :)

 

Yes I do feel intimidated by him... I feel like he's everything that I only wish I could be. He's the sweetest and most amazing person I've ever met, and everyone who meets him and knows him, adores him.

 

I've known for a while that he has feelings for me, but I had a difficult time letting him know that I felt the same. I also know he wants us to be together, but wants (or wanted) to wait for the right time.

 

For a while things were very tense between us. We both find it difficult to express our feelings directly because we're both scared of getting hurt. It's almost like he feels intimidated by me too? He then found out via someone else that I felt the same about him. Before I found out, I noticed that he was in an extremely good mood all the time and I didn't know why. When I found out that someone told him, the timing coincided with the time his mood changed so dramatically. About a week later he publicly called me by this sweet name he gave me.. (sorry not telling what it is :laugh:) - now all our friends know too. I didn't realize until then that all the tension (and resulting misunderstandings) between us was because he thought I didn't feel the same way about him. And thinking back about it, I didn't really give him much to go on... I mostly kept my feelings to myself.

 

I'm sure he's not seeing anyone else and he knows I'm not seeing anyone else either. Neither of us really believe in seeing more than one person at a time. He makes it clear to everyone we know that I'm the only one he has eyes for. And he knows I want to be his girlfriend :p But yes I really want us to be a couple officially. I'm extremely nervous about asking him whether he sees me as his girlfriend or not... we don't really have sit-down conversations about us. I know that before he gave me this special name, he didn't view me as his girlfriend, but that was also when things were so tense between us. It's about 2 months since he first asked me out, but I've known him for longer.

 

I don't think he'll have a DTR talk with me about us becoming a couple. I more expect him to just drop it into a conversation when talking to someone else, when he knows I'm listening (if this wasn't his way of letting me know that we're together already) :) Apart from the time when there was all this tension between us, we have this weird (and fun) way of communicating with each other where we both just know what the other person is getting at, without saying anything directly. I feel that him giving me this sweet name in public is either to let me know he's considering making it official soon, or he already has.

 

The person who told him how I feel (I was really upset at first), said it's like watching a really good soap opera, and they always look forward to the next episode to see what happens next lol!

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It is a good sign but it's not definitive.

 

One of my EXs had a pet name for every woman because he couldn't remember anybody's name. Alas he called all women the same pet name. We were throwing a party in our apartment once, & he called me by the pet name -- I know he was talking to me because it had to do with getting a serving tray out of a remote place -- but when he said the pet name out loud, 7 different women answered. I was the only one who wasn't pissed. I knew he called everybody that name & it was meaningless. All the other women were shocked that they weren't special.

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Words mean nothing unless actions back them up.

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Texting, I'm courious: how old are you and this man?

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Kinda weird...I always got the pet name after not before. Maybe he feels unsure and did it to see how you react.

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I call people pet names all the time and people do that to me also. I don't think you can go by that OP. You need to have that conversation with him to find out what you two are.

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What does it mean if a guy gives you a very sweet pet name for the first time - but in public, so all your mutual friends know? Not complaining... I really loved it! We've sort of had an unspoken understanding that we're both looking for a relationship and were seeing where it goes with us. I've never heard him call anyone by anything else other than their name... until he used this term of endearment on me... in public. Just wondering what the meaning could be behind him making it public like that... Do you think it's his way of letting everyone (including me) know we're together now?

 

 

 

Babe

Boo

My Dear

Sweetie

Sweet Face

Bright Eyes

 

Some names you can say to you a girl. I say whatever I say she say the same back. It's a good sign. You shouldn't worry about in public you should be happy you both have a good relationship. These are words of affection and endearment. Don't think too much about it with others around you both. what counts is he's saying to you always.. :)

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I know three different men who call all women "love".

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I know three different men who call all women "love".

 

Yes

 

Love

Baby

Girl

Woman

 

are some more you can say to your girl..

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What does it mean if a guy gives you a very sweet pet name for the first time - but in public, so all your mutual friends know? Not complaining... I really loved it! We've sort of had an unspoken understanding that we're both looking for a relationship and were seeing where it goes with us. I've never heard him call anyone by anything else other than their name... until he used this term of endearment on me... in public. Just wondering what the meaning could be behind him making it public like that... Do you think it's his way of letting everyone (including me) know we're together now?

 

What does he say when you ask him?

 

His answer will be far more on point than our speculation.

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