bigbuffs Posted September 8, 2005 Share Posted September 8, 2005 Been a while since I updated my situation. For those of you who don't know my story and would like to here it is http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=59339 Anyway things are not good. We are in the process of Divorce right now. I haven't talked to her in about 3 months. Not sure that I really want to hear anymore of her lies anyway. But, my problem is that even though STBX has moved, the OM still lives here in town. We only have about 18,000 so it is a pretty small town. Everyonce in a while I will see STBX's car in town at OM's place. Everytime I do it just fills me with anger. Also OM works at the local Wal-Mart. It has gotten to the point where I can't even go in there just incase he is there. I went there a while back with my father, was looking for something when I walked around the Isle there he was right in my face. I don't think he realized who I was right away and he said can I help you. I know if my dad wasn't there I would probably be in jail right now. Seeing him just fills me with anger and so much crap, things that I should't have to feel. I try to do my shopping out of town but I should't have to do that. I hate even looking at bald people because it makes me think of him (he is bald obviously). I don't know how much more of this I can take. I pray I never see the 2 of them together because I know it would just push me over the edge. I'm actually to the point where I think maybe I should move, but the thing is I'm just starting my Jr. year of college and, all my friends and family are around here. I told myself a while back that I should stay and deal with this, but I don't want to have to worry about running into OM everywhere I go. This stuff just poisons my mind, I can't stop thinking about them. I don't want to feel like this but how can I change a feeling. Anyone have any suggestions for me? -There is no revenge more complete than forgiveness- I tell myself this everyday. Link to post Share on other sites
lynnspies1 Posted September 8, 2005 Share Posted September 8, 2005 She did this to you and your relationship, not him. Get some help if you need to and know that it will get better over time. It sounds like you are young if you are just going to college. I would thank him or her for doing this now when you are young and have no kids (I hope). They gave you an opportunity to start over and find a girl that will truley love you and be your partner. So many of us here at LS did not get that chance and have had to either had to settle to stay and try and work it out due to kids or time involved in the relationship or leave and tear the family apart and divorce. You got a blessing in my opinion. Lynn Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted September 8, 2005 Share Posted September 8, 2005 I'm actually to the point where I think maybe I should move, If you can afford to do that that might not be such a bad idea. You'll meet loads of new people in college, be very busy & will definitely forget about her & the OM quicker. Link to post Share on other sites
aloneinTX Posted September 12, 2005 Share Posted September 12, 2005 Don't let this be a reflection on yourself. Just as you still love her and she has picked someone else, it is a choice we all make. Link to post Share on other sites
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