4 year friendship ended suddenly and I don’t know why

[Haru-no-yuki]

I didn’t come here for advice on my marriage. I said don’t bring it up. I’m glad you are out.

 

I think the reason you're still obsessing is because she ghosted you. I was also ghosted and I knew the reason. That still doesn't make it easier. I also obsessed over the OW for a while, not because I wanted to be back with her but because I never got the chance to talk properly to her. Ghosting sucks - even when the ghoster has a perfectly valid reason

 

Based on my experience, what helped me stop thinking about the OW was putting all my efforts and thoughts into my wife.

 

Coming on this forum also helped even if I don't agree with many of the posters