One year after divorce...

[Myasylum]

I just thought I'd share this for others that are going through divorce and how it feels one year later...

 

I have to say... it really does get better. At the time you don't believe it, I didn't either, but it does.

 

Often people have said, don't start another relationship till at least a year after divorce.

I can state that is true... however, I did meet someone 3 months later, but it didn't work out. The reason I say not to do it, is that your emotions are still high from the divorce. If the new relationship doesn't work out (which it didn't) it's twice as devastating, and not good for your mental health. Your not over the first one yet, no matter what you tell yourself. It was a couple steps back into depression.

You're not even yourself yet, and still searching for identity. You may even be a bit crazy (and understandably so), not time for making big decisions.

Now a year later, yea... it still kind of bugs me, if you think about it, but just try to keep yourself preoccupied. It does get better, a lot better, and things become clear.

My ex is with someone already, and now my attitude is more less... "Well? What you going to do?"

Where before it was much more vengeful (feeling, and in thought).

 

Avoid you ex at all cost. It's not worth it to yourself. Let her drama be just that... her drama, don't let it be yours. Your worth more than that. That will come clear in time as well. Do not engage, do not get sucked back in.

 

Now this is where someone else could join in. What happens after a year? I'm finding myself more secure and not even wanting a girlfriend at this point though I wouldn't stop myself if I met someone amazing (if they exist?).

I just find myself enjoying my time, but it can be a bit lonely, and leads me to wonder??? What's next?