Love Search vs Infidelity

[Mysterio]

You know what I don't get about life.

 

We know people that are having a hard time finding love. Also at the same time. We know people that have affairs.

 

I don't understand why it looks this way to me. The people in affairs can't fix or keep on track with their SO. The people that are single, can not find an ideal match.

 

Are we are worst enemies or are we socialized so bad that we can't stay away from an affair/find an ideal match. I know a lot of people. I can't say anyones love life for the most part is ideal, except for 3 or so.

[carhill]

Humans aren't naturally monogamous. Some can process that and make a choice to be monogamous.

 

The rest is demographics. In any scenario where one gender out-supplies the other, the lesser supply will always be in demand for hetero interactions. That impels competitive behaviors and demand induced exaggeration of one's value.

[Chilli]

Yeah , to try and put it politely ,one thing about the affair and playing around type , is that they're often the type that just can't keep their mind on the one job , their partner.

They often highly sexual people far more than average and they often know how to get their man , or women. And even when they have a great partner they still just can't help but admire and toy with the scenery . they just need and love the opposite sex.

 

The people that have a harder time finding love are often just of average sexuality and drive , truth be known they probably make much better partners and husbands and wives and be happily contented and loyal and appreciative when they do find someone they love and that loves them.

Edited September 29, 2018 by Chilli

[carhill]

What's exciting about a steady loving partner anyway? Day in, day out, always there. Today it's all about stimulation and instant gratification. Me, me, me. Everything moves at warp speed and the concept of monogamy, and marriage, are struggling to keep up.

 

More choices, more exposure, more mobility. All relevant to both love searches and affairs. Not to mention more daily mixing of the genders over the past 50-60 years than in the past.

[ElKay]

I've always disagreed with humans being non-monagomous by default as I'm programmed like one. I just can't have more than one crush/infatuation at a time, so that's obviously not a good general observation.

 

I feel like some people just get into relationships without being ready for one emotionally or whatnot, so they cheat because they're not into it.

[Chilli]

Yeah , be another side of the coin for sure elkay