How do I stop her from getting anything?

[AndyLion]

Ok, so come on guys help me out. It seems my wife of 11 years doesn’t know the meaning of the word faithful. I had an inkling so had her followed for a month. NINE different times with THREE different guys.

 

Can I just lock her out? I have nothing to say to her, I do not care about her reasons or what has happened in the past, those things were dealt with. I just want her gone and to give her as little as possible, preferably nothing.

 

We have been married just over 11 years, we had one child (now deceased), she has worked maybe a quarter of that time on and off. She did keep house but not very well so doesn’t deserve much for that. We rent where we are but I own a small unit that is rented out where I lived before we met and moved in together. She can’t touch that can she? I’ll burn it down before she gets any of that.

 

I want her wedding and engagement rings back, she clearly had no intention of really being married. I know you can get an engagement ring back if the marriage doesn’t happen. I don’t believe we were ever truly married as she obviously didn’t want me to the exclusion of all others.

 

I’m in Oregon, don’t know what the laws are here. What about my business, that’s all me, can she touch that?

 

Even though it will also be embarrassing for me I want to tell everyone about her and how disgusting she is.

 

Can I keep both cars? They’re both in my name. In fact everything is in my name. So help me out guys, how can I screw her over (figuratively speaking as I would not touch her with a ten foot pole).

 

I only found out Friday and it ruined my weekend away and my life. I’m home today and my plan is to ask her to come and meet me somewhere and then change the locks while she’s out. She wont be homeless, she’s got at least three others guys she can shack up with. Probably more.

 

I’ll just throw her stuff on the front lawn. I’ll need to get tested for AIDS as well thanks to her. I need a good lawyer, I don’t want her to get a thing. She can have her clothes I guess. How can I stop her from getting half of an honest man's life?

Edited October 1, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[stillafool]

First, I'm so sorry this happened to you and not that it helps but you are not alone. If you look around this forum you will see many wives are cheating on their husbands. I'm glad you've decided to kick yours to the curb. She can't be trusted as you know. The first thing you need to do before anything is to consult a lawyer to make sure you don't make any mistakes that will cost you money. He/she will instruct you on the proper way to end this. Just know there are some good women out there so there's no need to stay with a cheater. Don't fall back with her because she won't change.

[AndyLion]

Yeah I'll see a lawyer of course. I don't want her in my house. Can I just kick her out today? I don't want to have to pretend until after I have a chance to see a lawyer and if I say something she'll have a chance to take stuff she doesn't deserve. Surely I don't have to let her in my house. She's not welcome her any more.

[BaileyB]

You need to see a lawyer ASAP.

 

Is her name on the mortgage? Did you purchase the house together, during your marriage? You must remember, all marital assets acquired during your marriage are shared. Giving her nothing after 11 years of marriage is not going to be an option - I’m sorry. That is also HER house. Which is why you can not kick her out before you speak to a lawyer.

 

Prepare yourself, you may also be required to pay her spousal support. This could be very difficult for you - make an appointment to see a lawyer, today.

[stillafool]

I can't see a problem with you kicking her out today. She is going to be so distraught that you've found out about her cheating she isn't going to be able to think straight. Be prepared for crying and begging, pleading and more lies when you tell her that you know what she's been up to and get out. Those guys don't want your wife! She will sadly find this out soon and then she'll want her safety blanket back (you). She will try to seduce you back with all of the sex acts she did with the other men. Don't fall for it. You should read some of the other threads here from men in your situation.

[BaileyB]

I missed the part where you said you were renting, that the home was previously owned by you.

 

Yes, you can kick her out if you are renting. You should be able to keep the home, but you need to talk to a lawyer. Depending on the laws in your atate, you may still owe her spousal support. Good luck.

[Art_Critic]

Seek legal advice, nobody here can give you legal advice on throwing her out.

 

In my state the marital home is both spouse's and neither can throw the other out or change the locks, no matter who is on the deed or lease agreement.

 

She may not want to live there but you still will need a separation agreement giving you authority over the marital home.

 

Hire a lawyer and don't do anything till they advise you on it

[elaine567]

You are married, and unless there is a preup, then almost everything will be marital property, you cannot kick her out and if you do then the court may judge against you.

Oregon is a "no fault" divorce state so her alleged infidelity/adultery will not be taken into consideration when dividing assets/property - it will be straight down the middle.

[AndyLion]

Oregon is a "no fault" divorce state so her alleged infidelity/adultery will not be taken into consideration when dividing assets/property - it will be straight down the middle.

 

 

What? How? Why? How can she not work half the time and when she's not working go off with all these guys and then get half of everything I've slaved away for? So she could be the best wife in the world and she gets half or she could be sleeping with the whole town and get the same? Who wrote those laws? That just can't be right.

[BaileyB]

Good information.

 

What about spousal support. Where I live, it has little to do with how well she kept the house but everything to do with her earning potential and how long they were married.