No_Go Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 Or just find another girlfriend who doesn't own pets. ^ This. I'm a pet person, and although we lock them out from the bedroom , I wouldn't be upset if they were getting in. I think it boils down to an incompatibility that will grate on you BIG time if you ever move in together. IMO pet people vs no pet people just don't mesh well. Yes it can work with some sacrifices from both ends, but again IMO is not worth it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 How old is the dog? My dog is 11,5 years old and he slept on my bed or on the floor next to me since his birth. When I met my bf 3 years ago there was NOWAY I was gonna lock my dog outside my bedroom after all those years. Of course my dog wasn't too keen on having a new-dog in the house and on his bed but with some patience and training we got him to lay on his bed in my room and to be quiet. Bf and I did this as a team and used positive-training technique. It's possible to train this dog to lay down at night, but your girlfriend has to be determined to train him. As for the dog pacing and not letting you sleep my first guess is he's not exercised enough. A tired dog is a happy dog. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jimjam77 Posted October 2, 2018 Author Share Posted October 2, 2018 ^ This. I'm a pet person, and although we lock them out from the bedroom , I wouldn't be upset if they were getting in. I think it boils down to an incompatibility that will grate on you BIG time if you ever move in together. IMO pet people vs no pet people just don't mesh well. Yes it can work with some sacrifices from both ends, but again IMO is not worth it. Love animals but I draw the line at poop skid marks on my pillow and dog hair stuck to my wet balls during sex. Some people are just filthy. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 Love animals but I draw the line at poop skid marks on my pillow and dog hair stuck to my wet balls during sex. Some people are just filthy. Well.. that has nothing to do with the dog, that would be your GF or you who are not changing the sheets. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 Love animals but I draw the line at poop skid marks on my pillow and dog hair stuck to my wet balls during sex. Some people are just filthy. And that`s just the happy couple.... Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 She is that dog's pack. That means she's supposed to let it sleep near her. And if she doesn't, then you're going to find out what real whining and noise is like, because it's unnatural. Trying to separate the woman from her loyal best friend, you will lose. I wouldn't choose any man over any dog or cat I've ever had. It's too easy to find a man who loves dogs and can ignore them if they're napping while you're not. I can hardly believe I'm actually reading this! It's hilarious. But it does prove that the range of attitudes and beliefs is much broader than we first presume for any given issue. Ugh. Jimjam, if your GF has similar beliefs and refuses to compromise, there is a distinct possibility that the two of you are hugely incompatible and this is the tipping point. I hope not, but I completely understand your preference for keeping animals out of the bedroom. It's not like you're telling the woman she has to give up her dog, what you're asking is completely reasonable. A dog will take every inch you give and then some, so it's up to the owners to set the limits. Dogs are dogs. If your GF refuses to accept that you have feelings and they matter, well, that's a much larger issue. I think you need to have the discussion, respectfully and rationally of course, and see what shakes out. If she says that what she imagines the dog might be feeling always comes before you... believe her and make decisions accordingly. I don't see how anyone could live with a dog that doesn't willingly retire to its crate when told. It's their place. Link to post Share on other sites
SevenCity Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 Any issue you have with your gf has to be approached as the impact to you, not that she is doing something wrong. I can tell you, if a woman tries to make me choose between me and my dog, she will lose every single time. On the bright side, my dog will get off the bed if we start having sex:lmao: Of course, I will lift her back on once finished. Link to post Share on other sites
Gretchen12 Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 Problem is you went along with it for a year so now it's hard to suddenly change things. If you had refused to, or cannot, have sex in front of the dog the very first time, she might be more understanding. It's like if she requests you to participate in a fetish, don't do it for the first time. Once you've done it for a year, it's expected. Oh and I think dogs know it's sex when they see it. Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 Love animals but I draw the line at poop skid marks on my pillow and dog hair stuck to my wet balls during sex. Some people are just filthy. So WTH makes you stay with this filthy woman? It is not the dog that forces you to stay in a relationship... which has already past its expiration date. Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 Have been seeing this girl about a year now and cannot seem to overcome this funk with her dog ruining sex. For me I do not want the dog in the bedroom at all while we are having sex. The dog whines will get super close to the bed and it is just a big turn-off. She's worried that the dog is going to be sad if we throw it out of the bedroom. I'm starting to feel like this is incredibly selfish as there is no reason that the dog has to be a part of our sex life. We are also starting to have talks about moving in together but the dog also scratches all night and keeps me up. This is me making me wonder what I have to look forward to if we did move in together... A dog keeping me up all night and having sex in front of a dog all the time? I actually like the dog but I'm accused of not liking it just because I don't want it to watch me have sex appreciate anyone's input Wow this one is good story. The dog is her friend her pal you can't turn her way from her friend the dog. Of course the dog is too close to her. Does she allow the dog to jump into the bed with her? That needs to stop though your in her life the dog needs to be on his own bed in another room. Does she have a basement But you have to make your point valid though the dog is a pet and doesn't need to be in the same room with you while having sex or in the sex act of love making. The dog will over react and you will be un easy. She not understanding. Well if she doesn't care then you need to leave. Don't move in with her if she doesn't make some changes. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 This is in my home just to clarify... Then tell her to leave the dog at home or stay home with it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 Love animals but I draw the line at poop skid marks on my pillow and dog hair stuck to my wet balls during sex. Some people are just filthy. Okay at this point it isn't the dog that needs to go, it's her. If you see this kind of stuff now, just wait until you uncover her filthy habits when you guys live together. I wouldn't want a woman like that to handle my babies. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 On the bright side, my dog will get off the bed if we start having sex:lmao: that's because your dog doesn't want to accidentally get corn-holed! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jimjam77 Posted October 4, 2018 Author Share Posted October 4, 2018 Well I tried to discuss with her calmly in a collaborative way and she got all bitchy like 'How dare I not want the dog to watch us ****ing'. Ha I must have some serious nerve! Needless to say it is pretty clear to me now that she is dunzo. Link to post Share on other sites
Mardelis Posted October 4, 2018 Share Posted October 4, 2018 Well I tried to discuss with her calmly in a collaborative way and she got all bitchy like 'How dare I not want the dog to watch us ****ing'. That's weird. Link to post Share on other sites
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