Have i blown it?

[jon marc]

Iv'e been seeing a girl for 3 months now. Im 43 she is 41 with 2 young children and she's been away from father about 1.5 year. I have 2 kids 10&16 and been split from kids mum 8 years now.

 

she works full time and the dad takes the kids 3 nights a week so seeing her wasn't a problem until recently. The first 2 months of dating and seeing each other went perfectly! My concerns started when she went on a girls holiday at the end of August. It was 4 days of partying. She did keep in touch but only really once a day when she got up. Prior to her going she said she'd be in touch "loads" whilst she was away. On the last day i txt her saying 'have a great last night" but it never got replied to until the next day...so this was my first concern. She normally replies to my txt and i don't over txt and sometimes wait until she makes contact. i asked her why she never replied that night and she said she wasn't looking at her phone at all. I found that strange as its never out her hand.

 

Since that iv'e had serious relationship anxiety thinking she's gone off me. I trust her and have never accused her of seeing other guys.

 

She was due to stay with me last Friday but also mentioned a friend was wanting to meet her for tea and would it be ok if she came to me after. I said well why don't i meet you after you've had your tea and we can grab some nice Friday night drinks in town. Great she says "i wont be late"

 

So i got myself ready and waited for her to call with arrangements. She never called and i eventually had to call her way later than i expected. she was drunk on the phone and said she had lost track of time. By this point i was angry that she thought it was ok for me to be waiting about for hours on her calling. To cut a long story short i said i would meet her but hen 5 mins later changed my mind as i was really not happy that she never gave me a called to say she was running late. I overreacted and said i couldn't be bothered with the relationship anymore and ended it! I now regret that big time and have since tried to make it up saying i made a mistake this has been all via txt as she wont pick up the phone. She says she needs space to think about things and i have to leave her to it for now. But i just want to know where we stand.

 

Any advice or thoughts greatly appreciated...i feel an idiot for ending it but also felt let down by her and i never thought she would leave me waiting like that.

[d0nnivain]

3 months in & you are acting like it's 3 years in. Then in a fit of pique you ending things.

 

You can try apologizing for over reacting to her being late but I doubt that will change things. Even if she takes you back, you want more then she is willing or able to give. You expect multiple contact per day while she's on vacation. Granted she was rude & should have either kept her word to meet you or let you know earlier that she wasn't coming. I suspect that is a function of her being less into you then you are into her so I see long term problems.

 

Maybe it's best just to let this go since you already ended it.